SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2002
SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:05pm
I just saw this and have to disagree. No one has the right to SAH, and being female doesn't give you any rights in that regard.

You have the option of SAH, just as any other parent does.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:06pm

"Do you have a problem with women who work but don't financially contribute to the household income for paying living expenses?"


Why, don't you?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:11pm

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Well, technically, if you WOH he wouldn't be the *sole* breadwinner. He might remain the *primary* one, but couldn't be the *sole*. lol


Ummm, if you want to quit and come redo my house, I'll email you directions.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:11pm
When your dh gives you an underlined copy of Dr. Laura's book, your ss's, who turn out to be roughly your age, berate you for not increasing their SES when they were almost full grown, and when your only power is forcing your small child to take piano lessons, no amount of income is going to make a difference.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:16pm

"Of course the sweetest deal of all for men is that they have working wives who do >50% of the chores and childcare."


That's my situation.

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:24pm
Women have choices.

I believe it is the right of the woman that if financially able to be able to sah whether they have kids or not.

When a woman or a couple can feasibly live without the woman's salary she is able to make choices. Sah is a valid choice.

You don't agree?

Paige

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:30pm

"I believe it is the right of the woman that if financially able to be able to sah whether they have kids or not."


The woman?

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:32pm
That doesn't make the job one is doing to earn that play money of less value or the employee not to be as good at her job because she doesn't use the money to pay the mtg. Do you think so?

That is just the term dh & I have always used in referring to my salary. No intention to offend.

On the career thing. My husband has a career. He has spent years building up his experience, going back to school, climbing the ladder, us moving until he gets in the position he wants to be in his career. I consider teaching very important but at the same time it is a lot different for me. That is why I consider it a job. I'm not working towards being a principal or superintendant. I know people who do teach that is their goal. They are on the career track. I am not. I just love to teach, I love my work.

I explained that planning my wedding (and going on my honeymoon) were a small part of that time. We bought a house that had to be gutted & remodeled. I wanted to do it. My dh said why don't you just quit working for however long. We are doing it again, remodeling another house, but this time I'm doing it as a WOHM. I'm not saying I couldn't have done it & worked. It was a choice.

I'm dedicated to my kids & parents. I love to teach. I chose the profession. I didn't know I was going to fall in love & marry as soon as I did after starting to work. I didn't know I was going to have the opportunity to sah or to sah after I had my dd. All those things just fell in my lap & I took advantage of the luck because sah is attractive to me & my dh.

I don't take teaching lightly as you put it. I have already told my dh when he retires I want to retire at the same time and then pick up sub jobs because I don't want to get away from it entirely. I did sub work all the times I've not been employed FT.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:33pm

I can agree that when a couple decides they can feasibly live without ONE PARENT'S salary THEY

Virgo
 
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:36pm
You have a unique view of the difference between a job and a career.

Virgo

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