What I meant was all living expenses come solely from him.
Thanks, but no thanks. I am in way over my head with this old house we bought. I think some of the paper has been on the walls since the civil war era.
We don't use my income. I'm not less of a woman. I'm not less of a wife or less of a mother because of it.
Every financial decision that is made, every move we have made, every purchase we have made we made together. I have just as much right to make the decisions that he does and we agree on that.
If he didn't, I would not be taking time off to SAH. Well, I wouldn't have married him in the first place & I'd be working to support myself.
I do cook and clean but wouldn't bash someone who doesn't have to do it. That would be a nice little dream to come true. I hate cleaning toilets, ack!
I prefer the term "discretionary income" too. I think when you say "play money" there is an unintended association of "play money from play job" (thus people worrying you don't take the job seriously). But if you say "discretionary income", the association is "discretionary income from discretionary job". It makes it sound like you can quit without losing your house but doing good and serious work while on the job.
If it's "Either" then it isn't your "Womanhood" that gives you the "right" to SAH. . .it's the mutual decision made by partners with the financial means to make such decision and has nothing to do with your 'womanhood.'
They were pressured into those female dominated careers by a society that had lead them to belive those were careers that were acceptable for *women*.
I'll take the sunset on the female choice to sah, well before I'll take the sunset on the female choice to work to earn just as well for their families as do men. Sorry, but the female *choice* to sah exists more than anything, becuase there is no male *choice* to sah. Females refuse to prepare themselves to ever provide their husbands with that choice. Its a female responsibility to make the choice available to men. The minute men take it upon themselves to prepare themselves for that choice, which will be when as many boys as girls grow up expecting to have a spouse support themselves and their children, and preparing for that life...the number sah period will drop drastically. As all those families with two parents who didn't expect to have to support themselves, and never prepared to do that well, scramble to support children on two low income jobs neither of them ever expected to have to hold. Trust me...the first move needs to be made by women who prepare themselves...the female irresponsible idealist "let the men define their own choices" idea will result in economic disaster. Its not a chicken and egg problem. Having twice as many people grow up inadequately prepared and not expecting to support a family in a manner which they expect to be living, is not going to improve anyones situation.
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It is money (discretionary or play) that is not used for living expenses.
I just referred to it in the same term we utilize here between us. Again, no intention to offend.
Paige
Thanks, but no thanks. I am in way over my head with this old house we bought. I think some of the paper has been on the walls since the civil war era.
Paige
We don't use my income. I'm not less of a woman. I'm not less of a wife or less of a mother because of it.
Every financial decision that is made, every move we have made, every purchase we have made we made together. I have just as much right to make the decisions that he does and we agree on that.
If he didn't, I would not be taking time off to SAH. Well, I wouldn't have married him in the first place & I'd be working to support myself.
I do cook and clean but wouldn't bash someone who doesn't have to do it. That would be a nice little dream to come true. I hate cleaning toilets, ack!
Paige
Virgo
I'll take the sunset on the female choice to sah, well before I'll take the sunset on the female choice to work to earn just as well for their families as do men. Sorry, but the female *choice* to sah exists more than anything, becuase there is no male *choice* to sah. Females refuse to prepare themselves to ever provide their husbands with that choice. Its a female responsibility to make the choice available to men. The minute men take it upon themselves to prepare themselves for that choice, which will be when as many boys as girls grow up expecting to have a spouse support themselves and their children, and preparing for that life...the number sah period will drop drastically. As all those families with two parents who didn't expect to have to support themselves, and never prepared to do that well, scramble to support children on two low income jobs neither of them ever expected to have to hold. Trust me...the first move needs to be made by women who prepare themselves...the female irresponsible idealist "let the men define their own choices" idea will result in economic disaster. Its not a chicken and egg problem. Having twice as many people grow up inadequately prepared and not expecting to support a family in a manner which they expect to be living, is not going to improve anyones situation.
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