SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:31pm
There is a female "choice" to SAHM because there is a male "choice" whether or not to do any housework and childcare.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:35pm
Yes it is very relaxing at my sister's house. even my kids looooove to go there, because they arent judged, hounded, whatever. lauren and her dh are laid back kinda people. nothing is a problem.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:36pm
What I see is that all but one poster is interested in having equal footing with men. And that most posters think this will be achieved when as many boys grow up expecting to sah, as do girls. While completely ignoring the fact that having twice as many adults who are not prepared to support families, and don't want to support families, will drastically reduce the number of families who have the choice of having a sah - of any description. Of course its has one good side. Its just the long way to the situation where most boys and girls grow up fully expecting to support families - and prepare themselves to do so equally well. I don't think it would really take more than a generation or two of mass dissappointment for that to kick in. Of course the economic damage it does will take more generations after that to fix. My way is simply quicker and causes no damage.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:40pm
So is it a valid choice if a man decides to SAH whether or not he has kids too?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:44pm
We often do "big stuff" too. we're getting ready to pull our shower out and replace the green sheet rock with wonder board, and some new tile. i would like to make it a little bigger, but we'll see once we get started how it will work out. we will also lay tile on the floor in the living room, kitchen and breakfast room. my dh has pretty much done every kind of "home improvement" you can think of to our houses over the years, from knocking a whole in the outside wall to put in a fireplace, to tiling, to roofing, to closing off doorways, building decks, cement work, plumbing, electrical, brick work, installed central air and you know what the kicker is??? he even makes pretty babies!!!! LOL. yup, we've saved ourselves a bundle over the years, although if we didnt do it ourselves, it probably wouldnt have gotten done, as we couldnt afford to pay someone to do all we've done.
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:49pm
Oh really? And just who is paying my bills if I'm not?

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:51pm
Yes, why wouldn't it be? Paige
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Registered: 03-18-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:56pm

No, I don't think most posters want equality with men, they want wage parity, and the *choice* to SAH or WOH.

Mondo

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 4:59pm
Well to me it should be and is. But you specified women in your post so I was just following up on what *you* stated!
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 5:09pm

I don't think most women want equality with men, but rather *equal rights* as men.


I want to have the same choices as men. I think I *do*, for the most part, have the same choices as men. But if I choose something different than a man, I don't expect to be treated the same as him.


*I* don't want a 6-figure blue-chip executive job managing a $100M budget. But I do want to have the choice to do so ... if I desired. And I have that choice.


Equality and equal rights are NOT the same thing.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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