Since we were used to living completely on DH's income the 12 years I was a SAHM when I returned to the work force we continued to base our bills on DH's income. With my income added we then had XX amount of extra money every month. But since all of our money went into one pot who can say whether I paid for the groceries and he paid for a trip to 6 Flags or he paid for the groceries and I paid for a trip to 6 Flags. Once the money comes into the house it is our money, not his and hers.
That sounds great. My husband is a good home improvement guy, no Tim the Tool man.
Yes, it saves a bundle & we wouldn't get to have these remodeled homes if we had to pay people to come in and do everything. We say why pay others to do what we can do & we get the thrill of accomplishment when sitting around the house afterwards & looking at all our hard work.
No, I don't. Why should a woman's salary always go to support the family when the hubby & wife decide to utilize those funds for other things other than paying the rent or mtg & bills? Where is it written or why should it be written that this set up should be counted as wrong when it is something the couple decide together & are happy with? Because you don't like it, makes it wrong? I don't think so. No, I'm not a kept woman. I earn a salary. We together spend that salary. It is not my money. He can go spend an entire paycheck of mine if he wishes. He's done it. It is ok, I'm fine with that. I can also spend an entire paycheck of mine. I've done it & it is ok, he is fine with that.
Then why do you feel a need to label whose money is paying for what? "His money pays the bills and mine is the fun money". If all the money in both accounts is equally both of yours then you are both paying the bills and both providing fun money. You are just keeping it in different accounts for logistical reasons. You are depositing XX amount of family income into the fun money account. Which means that family income is also going towards paying the bills. Since you are both supplying that family income you are both paying for both.
My DH's pay checks are are all automatically deposited. Mine are not, I have to go to the bank and cash mine. So it makes logistical sense for me to keep enough cash out of mine for spending money for the week. The fact that that spending money came out of my paycheck does not mean that I provide all the spending money for us. We both provide the spending money but we take it out of my paycheck because of convenience.
I just don't remember these "rights" in the constitution. Is it her "right" to SAH if the husband doesn't want to be the sole support or doesn't agree?
The reason more men don't sah isn't women who "refuse to prepare themselves to ever provide their husbands with that choice." The reason is people like you who think that the only way to make a meaningful contribution to one's family or society is to bring home a fat paycheck.
So, let me get this staight, it's a woman's "right" to SAH w/o kids and have her husband support her in whatever she wants to do EVEN if he disagrees with it? Is this what you are saying?
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Since we were used to living completely on DH's income the 12 years I was a SAHM when I returned to the work force we continued to base our bills on DH's income. With my income added we then had XX amount of extra money every month. But since all of our money went into one pot who can say whether I paid for the groceries and he paid for a trip to 6 Flags or he paid for the groceries and I paid for a trip to 6 Flags. Once the money comes into the house it is our money, not his and hers.
Equality and equal rights are NOT the same thing.
That's what I'm trying to explain to OP.
Mondo
I can write or withdraw money from either account at any time. He can do the same.
We don't check with one another on it first.
Paige
Yes, it saves a bundle & we wouldn't get to have these remodeled homes if we had to pay people to come in and do everything. We say why pay others to do what we can do & we get the thrill of accomplishment when sitting around the house afterwards & looking at all our hard work.
Paige
My DH's pay checks are are all automatically deposited. Mine are not, I have to go to the bank and cash mine. So it makes logistical sense for me to keep enough cash out of mine for spending money for the week. The fact that that spending money came out of my paycheck does not mean that I provide all the spending money for us. We both provide the spending money but we take it out of my paycheck because of convenience.
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