SAH IS HARMFUL!!!

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SAH IS HARMFUL!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 11:32am

Or at least this woman thinks so.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:41pm
LOL...hope that's not supposed to be your attempt at insults.

I may not be an ~*~ENGINEER~*~, but I know enough to leave a crap dead-end job and I have the kind of skills that make me employable even during tough economic times--giving me the FREEDOM to leave the crap dead-end job. You, on the other hand, will be stuck where you are for several more years.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:42pm
If you'd like. Obviously, you didn't notice the post I was responding to. Either that or you didn't bother to read it.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:43pm
LOL, no we know that others have other views. We're just pointing out that there are consequences to women's equality in our views. I CAN know others have different views and not agree with them, lol.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 9:43pm

That was lame, even for you.


Here's a shocker for you - no one in my family has ever, not once, hired anyone to do any remodeling, even though we can all more than afford it.


You know what's really starting to come through loud and clear in your posts? Your total resentment of anyone who has the financial means to SAH. Are you bitter about marrying someone who couldn't support you?

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:03pm
You're correct. I used my experience to move into more flexible positions because I was tired of working for managers who think that motherhood and work don't mix well. They mix just fine as long as you understand that 90% of the time it doesn't matter what time I do my work. Or even where I do it.

I have to laugh at the posts that try and depict me as some little victim just sitting and taking what's dished out. Nope. If I don't like it, I change it or move on. Life's too short to do otherwise.

I will miss my manager and the people I work with. They're a great bunch. We help each other out regardless of the reasons we get behind. We cover for each other when we're on vacation (have to since we're now understaffed). Some of us come in early and leave early, some come in late and leave late. If I need something done when I'm not going to be there, I know I just have to ask.

I am very much treated like a professional where I am and there's no conflict with being a mom. My only complaint is that this is just not what I want to be doing in 5 years. It was great for the first 5 years. Now it's same old same old and I have no where to go (except up the management ladder which I don't want) because I just don't have the background necessary to work on the types of projects that take off from here. Besides, I couldn't compete with our resident brainiacs, lol. We have a couple of guys who are incredibly intelligent. My manager did a great job of surrounding himself with highly capable people. While that has been great WRT training and understanding that you can have a life and a career, I'm kind of a fish out of water when it comes to competing in the technical arena. Not that I don't come in handy since I have background others don't. I'm just not an EE and electronics is the tech track from here.

I love that my boss doesn't care if I step out to drive on a field trip or work at a book fair at dd's school. He understands quite well that it doesn't matter if I write a report at 4 AM or 10:AM as long as it's turned in on time. I just don't love what I do now that I've been doing it for 6 years. So, it's time to move on. I figure if I'm going to start over, I'm going to start over doing something new.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:12pm
My DH perfectly understands your DH's feelings! LOL! DH bought our house in 1986 before we met. It's still a fixer-upper, but we're getting there. When someone sees our house and remarks "They don't build them like they used to," my DH responds, "Thank God!" LOL! We do have nice, thick natural moulding around all our doors and windows, high ceilings, two built-in solid wood hutches, a claw foot tub in our bathroom, and best of all, a wide wrap-around porch. But we also have old wiring, older plumbing, a porch that needs bracing and not one right angle in the place.
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:49pm
Give me a freaking break! Where is that barfing icon when you REALLY need it??
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:58pm
In my world, women are not THAT much different from men. If you don't like what you're doing you change it. If you think your employer is giving you the shaft you make some changes - not 11 years down the road for God's sake! You go on and give cudos to gk for NOT doing exactly what you are proporting she DID do. LMAO you are priceless woman!
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 11:02pm
Perhaps you can decipher for me since you seem to *get* O123... is she saying that women need to behave like men? If so, why? Do we need to grow a penis to be equal? Grow hair on our faces? Would that benefit women?
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 11:06pm
ROFLMAO - well put!

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