SAH moms..need HELP.....

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Registered: 01-19-2007
SAH moms..need HELP.....
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 1:16pm

I work now and am pregnant with #2.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 1:23pm

Hi Shannon, welcome to the board! I'm afraid I don't have a lot of concrete advice for you beyond the usual (live on one salary for a while, save the second salary, pay off credit cards, cars etc. and see how it goes.

I did want to mention, though, that this is a debate board and people around here will debate just about anything :-). It's a great board and people will offer good advice, but it can get a bit...um...lively at times.

If you are perhaps looking for a more supportive atmosphere, you could try the SAHM support board:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-ppsahm

They are a really great group of women!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 1:44pm
My advice is tell him how you feel about it. Let him know what your thoughts are and let him give you his. You will be able to come an agreement that will make the both of you happy. Good Luck!
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 1:50pm

i think your own post answered it - the fact that you can handle it financially and sah while keeping your rn liscense up to date are all pluses..i will and have always believed the most crucial years in a child's development are the early years. and if a parent can afford the privlege of sah,do it *imo*.....my youngest is entering his last year of preschool next year and it's just now that i'm considering reentering some sort of work force again. with that said,i wouldn't trade my availablity at home f/t for the world.

good luck to you and your family. congratulations.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 1:58pm
Save your post tax income for 6 months plus 10% of your DH's gross to show how your family could still save with you at home.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-03-2006
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 3:05pm
if you want I have a nice little exell table for a budget I could email it to you , also get on WIC it realy helps a lot.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 4:41pm

I agree with what others have said about living on DH's income and saving yours for a while. This will give you a good feel for how realistic/comfortable SAH would be for your family.

One thing to consider in your "presentation", and in your own thinking about it, is that this does not have to be a forever decision. If you are going to be working a little every month anyway, I imagine you would be in a very good position to pick up some more shifts if you find that things are too tight, or if you decide that you want to work more when the kids are a little older. If you present this as something you really want to try right now, but you are willing to go back if it isn't working, he might not get as stressed out about it.

Good luck with whatever your family decides!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 9:46am
If she needs WIC, she should WOH.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 5:38pm

Or WAH, or pick up a part time job. I dont think a family should use the system to afford having another child, unless of course the family fell onto a hardship and need temporoary help.

If you can't afford another child you should not be having one.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2000
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 10:51pm

Tell that one to my son, Dylan. And to our other 3 children who shouldn't have a brother.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 11:04pm

Are you saying that Dylan was a welfare baby?

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