SAH parenting- "job" or not?

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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am

SAH parenting- "job" or not?



  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • Obligatory 'Other'


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Registered: 08-22-2005
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 7:58pm
Well, apparently, so do the SAHMs who are insisting they don't. Unless, of course, they drink "on the job."

Karen


"IHere are some juicier bits from the

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 8:04pm

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Only if, by "traditional" you mean myopic. That "tradition" ony dates back to the 1950s and ignores several MILLENIA of tradition in which both parents worked. And even in the rare occasions (well to do households) where the wife played a version of "SAH", she *SURE* as heck wasn't involved in child care in any meaningful way.

Karen


"IHere are some juicier bits from the

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 8:15pm

Way to assume I was talking about YOU...and given the fact that you HAVE worked at Hallmark, it's an odd assumption to make. I was talking about ME. I've never made any secret of the fact that I hold Hallmark in a bit of contempt. The made-up "holidays" and all the treacly sweet faux sentiment? Not for me. I wouldn't work there if they paid me what I make now.

Everything isn't always about you.

Karen


"IHere are some juicier bits from the

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 8:24pm

<<***Early childhood ed classes?***

Yes- because after my kids are grown I'm going to be in the education field. The classes are required for my degree- I choose to take them now because they are also relevant to my *life* now. But I'd be taking them eventually *anyway*.>>

After your children are grown the ECE classes you're taking now will be obsolete.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 8:29pm

<> I don't know. I wasn't part of that debate.

<> That's fine. But don't whine that your "job" doesn't end because your DH/SO makes a mess after they come home and you *have* to clean it up. Nobody has to clean up after someone else.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 8:33pm
<> You're kidding, right?
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Fri, 12-16-2005 - 9:07pm

>I want to be a homeschooling parent, a parent that does various things around the home like making my kids halloween costumes, baking things for whatever (bake sales, my kids friends when they come over- etc.) *all* of that domestic 'stuff' as well as being an "attachment parenting" kind of parent.<

Other than the homeschooling (I worked at home then), I do all of that and work as well. I made 4 costumes this year for Dylan, Angela, Angela's friend, and my grandson. I have cooked 3 pumpkins and am now in the process of making 12 loaves of pumpkin bread for the holidays. The pumpkin seeds have all been roasted. This week end, we will start the cookie baking. Joy, dd#1, makes my grandson's babyfood and works a 40 hour week. I practiced attachment parenting before the term was coined since it basicly says to follow your child's clues in how to parent. Which I did--Erica wasn't carried nor did we co-sleep with her--she hated it. I did manage to breastfeed her for 9 months. She would have prefered a propped bottle. Dylan co-slept with us for 2 years and didn't move out of our room until he was 4. He nursed over 2 years with bottles at daycare. None of what you posted above can't be done by any mother regardless of working status IF she wanted to (with the exception of homeschooling).

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 11-25-2004
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 9:10pm
Can you spell control? I think some parents need to be the only ones to influence their children while they reasonably can. They can't stand the thought of their child being influenced by someone else. I've never understood this. I consider my own teachings to be stron enough to stand up to any opposition my children might see and most of the time, what they saw meshed well with what I taught them.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 9:52pm

Wow, you sure glorify nannies and dcps. When I think daycare, I think "free play." Your child may come home covered in glue and glitter and dirt - doesn't mean she had structured play at all or oodles of one-on-one time with her provider. Especially if the provider has 5 other children as you claim.

And I've observed nannies for 6 and a half years now, and I think they can be like any other employee who takes advantage when there's no boss in sight. Let me give you 2 recent examples. I understand nannies talk a lot on cell phones. It happens. But the other day at a play place, I saw a nanny with a head set - yes, a head set - instead of holding a cell phone. She talked on the phone the entire time we were there (over 2 hrs) and completely neglected her little girl.

Also within the past month, a nanny left her 2 yr-old in the game room for 20 minutes completely unattended. You might want to actually observe what goes on when you're not around before you put nannies and dcps so high up there on that pedestal.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 10:08pm

So, sahm2LB is the one buying up ALL of those aisles and aisles of parenting books at the millions of bookstores throughout the US? Ohhh.

She sounds like she's got it a lot more under control than I did when I was in a similar situation. And it's not "insecurity" though I would never dare question your many degrees in psychology. It's called taking very good care of 2 children of very tender years, having a lot less sleep than a human being requires and having practically no free time. She doesn't have to "chill." She just has to try to enjoy and accept how much easier it will all be when the children are about 2 or 3 years older.

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