SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am |
SAH parenting- "job" or not?
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- Obligatory 'Other'
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Overall, I agree.
Mondo
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Where shall I start?
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This might be true for you but not everyone.
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Again...maybe for you.
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Think SAHM don't have to get up and shower, get dressed and go out? I am wondering why you would think that?
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Really...you were cool with plopping your children and an infant in fron tof the television all day while you sat on the couch watching Dora all day? Sorry I don't do that...How long did your newborn and your 15 month old sit and watch tv?
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Well...I think you might be walking a line here. Many moms on this board would disagree with you here, but saying that SAH is a *real* job. I personally don't consider being a SAHM a job, but I do consider it hard work.
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Well let me tell you that there are many different strokes for different folks here. Not many know this on this board but at one time I was a WOHM. I had to work because I was a single parent. For me personally...WOH was way easier for me. When I WOH I could grocery shop on my lunch hour, and when I got off and had the hour before the DC closed I could run any errands that needed to be done. My house also stayed a lot cleaner. The only problem I had when I WOH was my schedule. I had to modify my schedule around my DD schedule for school. When I got married my schedule was a little more flexible because my DH was working weekends only. So in my particular case WOH was easier for me.
The only time I can think that I left my pj's on was when my children have been sick. Other than that...I get up at 5:30 every morning, shower, drive my oldest to the bus stop, come home, feed my other two breakfast, get them both dressed, clean up the kitchen, drive DS to school, and on T-Wed-Th I take DD#2 to her preschool, and come home and clean house, run errands, etc. I could go on but I won't bore you with my daily life. My days usually start at 5:30 and ends just after 8pm. So maybe you could wrap your brain around that.
I think this is a YMMV issue.
"The only time I can think that I left my pj's on was when my children have been sick. Other than that...I get up at 5:30 every morning, shower, drive my oldest to the bus stop, come home, feed my other two breakfast, get them both dressed, clean up the kitchen, drive DS to school, and on T-Wed-Th I take DD#2 to her preschool, and come home and clean house, run errands, etc. I could go on but I won't bore you with my daily life. My days usually start at 5:30 and ends just after 8pm. So maybe you could wrap your brain around that."
Ok, I already see a difference between WOH for you and WOH for me. There was no way on this earth that I would have my children in dc while I ran errands or shopped. Don't get me wrong, I know lots of people who do and I don't have a problem with people who do it, but I could not do it. When I wasn't at work, my kids were not at dc, period. So I WOH all day with no lunch (I flex my schedule around my kids school schedule), then driv eto the bus stop. So no errand time or cleaning time for me sans kids.
I don't think you can compare one WOH situation with another or with a SAH situation. You r days starts at 5:30, so does mine. I WOH while the kids are in school, then I have aftreschool activties that they go to, plus I am active in the PTA, I also WAH PT so that I can be home in the afternoons. I also WOH one night a week til 10. I would say that my day doesn't end until 11pm. Does that make it harder for me than you? Probably not. I have two children, but one is 16 and is self sufficient, has a car, so she gets herself where she needs to go. My younger one is 8, so I don't have any babies or small children. I get to read, I get to work out, I go shopping by myself when my older one is at home to look after the younger one.
You just can't compare and make definitive statements other than for your own situation.
Susan
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