SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am |
SAH parenting- "job" or not?
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- Obligatory 'Other'
You will be able to change your vote.

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Makes sense... Thanks for the clarification.
Wytchy
Yep ;) I've basically given up on that one too... DD (1yr) walks around with clean socks hangin out of her mouth (ick) and DS (2) either unfolds and tosses around the floor or "helps" by hiding my underthings in strange places or making tents out of shirts/pants etc.... *sigh* LOL Frustrating but highly amusing ;)
Wytchy
Going Tribal... Can't remember the guy's name but it's a great show ;)
Wytchy
***how old are yours sahm2...1 and 2? and they don't nap?***
Almost 1 and almost 2 ;) They nap, they just don't do it at the same time... DS is quite a good napper, but he's been changing his schedule around lately... He used to want an early nap, now he's making it later in the day... DD is quite sporadic- sometimes she naps, sometimes she doesn't- and I never know when she's going to (she was *born* awake- she didn't fall asleep until *well* after 12hrs after her birth. She *still* isn't really into sleep LOL! Day *or* night- although (thankfully) these past few days she's been getting really good at night with just one wake-up (knock on wood!)
***i don't have babies anymore but even when my then babies did nap, i couldn't take a break. that's when i caught up laundry, cleaned the house or planned dinners.***
Yeah- that's pretty much the way it is around here too on the rare occasion that I get the opportunity... It's much easier doing those things with the kids asleep...
***one side i do sympathize with some wohms on is where they do find time to work, shuffle from here to there for kids activities on top of many other tasks, errands.***
I definately agree!
Wytchy
I'm saying that at my children's ages- 1 and 2yrs respectively, that 30-40+ hours is far too much sharing of influence for my preference. I am by no means my children's sole influence- they have their father, grandparents, friends of ours etc. but for them to be outside the influence of myself or close family for long hours at their ages is not something I feel comfortable with or that I feel would be good for them. Now- as they get older? That's a different story. Although we plan to homeschool they will also be spending far more time with other people- other homeschooling families, tutors, adult friends of ours, more time with grandparents, their friends, various social groups etc. etc. etc.
Wytchy
I'm -so- glad my kids love their baths! LOL! I wonder if they'll still love them when they get a little older and Mommy isn't in there splashing around with them though ROFL! ;)
Wytchy
Then I won't be getting back to you. I wouldn't have 4 kids in five years. However...I suggest you let me know when one of those is a teenager...that is when the real fun starts.
BTW...I wasn't slamming your parenting...Not sure what that is about. Nor was I trying to compare what you do along with what anyone else does.
Edited 12/17/2005 8:31 pm ET by ahlmommy
Go hack through the thread...You made my point for me. She stated that it is easier to SAH than it is to WOH. I was explaining to her that her statement is wrong. That it isn't that way for everyone.
That is fine your children didn't go to DC when you weren't working. Nor did mine. I moved my DD school closer to my work so I could drive her to school everyday and she would take an afterschool van to her afterschool program. I work around the corner from the grocery store...I never felt the need to go pick up my 5 yr old from her play time to run the aisle with me at the grocery store. I didn't have flex time, so I did have a lunch hour some days. (I was a hair designer) When I did I used that time to do the errands I didn't want my little one to have to do with me.
***So then her happiness is based solely on not working?***
Solely? No- but don't you think happiness is based on a *combination* of things- some Very Big And Important and others that are Mostly Trivial And Not So Vital?
***That's a pretty fine line to balance a lot of things on, first parenting and now happiness as well. Does your not working affect every aspect of your life?***
Think of it this way- someone who has a natural passion for the outdoors isn't likely to be happy cooped up in an office job. Different people have different predispositions that are generally what steer them into their respective lines of work. Someone who doesn't really care for children isn't likely to be very happy as a childcare worker, wouldn't you agree? So why should it be any different for someone who has a natural bent toward being a SAHM?
***Mothers should change their core values and beliefs that is part of the kind of parent they are as children grow?***
We aren't talking about core values and beliefs. You keep doing so, but I've made it as clear as can be without a clue-by-four that that isn't what *I'm* talking about...
***You forget, I have been a sahm. I was the same kind of parent then that I am now. The kind of parent that I am is not influenced by working status.***
So do you presume that everyone else is just like you? Not at all influenced by working status?
***Parenting is much more than just me and how I feel.***
Oh ABSOLUTELY! 100% agreement there. But are you suggesting that how you feel is NOT AT ALL relevant to your interactions with your children? When I say that work status can affect parenting, I'm saying that anything that affects a parent in a positive or negative manner can affect their interactions with their children. If someone is in a position where they are miserable day after day (or on the flip side, if they are fulfilled and content day after day)- *I* think that's going to affect their relationships with and yes- thier parenting of- their children.
Wytchy
Where do you fold your laundry? I do it on the dining room table. Take it from the dryer to the table and fold. My kids weren't tall enough to reach the clean laundry. But then mine tend to be on the short side.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
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