SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am |
SAH parenting- "job" or not?
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- Obligatory 'Other'
You will be able to change your vote.

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***What I have said is that a SAHM has 40 hours that a WOHM does not have.***
Oh? WOHM's don't have the same 24hrs/day that SAHM's get? Just because one has other obligations doesn't mean that one somehow loses those 40hrs.
Wytchy
***So during the hours that most WOHMs are working, you don't EVER do laundry or other household chores like cooking or cleaning? I know I do.***
While they're awake? Sometimes- yes- but it's a rarity. Either something needs done so badly that I have to let them (or more usually just DD) scream while it gets done, or I get lucky and they actually nap at the same time (while the choir sings the Halleluja chorus LOL ;)
***This afternoon while DS napped (2pm-4pm), I dusted the entire house and cleaned our guest bathroom. Yesterday I folded and put laundry away while DS napped, then cooked dinner while he played AFTER his nap. If I WOH, those things would still have to be done, they'd just have to be done after my work day.***
Ahhh- naptime... That used to be nice... Now that they've changed their schedules they either don't nap or do it at very different times. Thus- I do those things after *my* 'work day' for the most part too.
Wytchy
LOL! ;) Yeah- mine loves to beat his sister over the head with the toy vacuum, smack her in the face with the dust cloth, pinch her fingers in the toilet seat, push her down onto the hardwood floors, try to "swim" in the toilet... DD likes to eat anything that isn't nailed down... Cleaning with them is SUCH fun... *sigh* (Needless to say- I do most of it in the evening after DH gets home LOL)
Wytchy
*Chuckle* Wherever I can... Right now it's on the floor/couch once the kids are in bed or DH is playing with them once he gets home. My kids are *tall* (DH is 6'8"- the kids are way off the height chart for their ages...) There really isn't a good situation there for other options. ;) No big- this works for us- it's not like they're going to be this little and into-everything forever ;)
Wytchy
I'm a single parent. You do the math.
Now, if you're asking, do I find anything of value from what I do, sure, yeah. Just because I work doesn't mean I have to be miserable. BTDT from time to time--tough to avoid the occasional dud job. But by and large I choose what I do based on what I can stand and possibly enjoy doing. I like what I do. it's fun and the hours rock.
But bottom line, I'm a single parent and I bring in 100% of the income so, yeah, money is ABSOLUTELY the reason i work.
Karen
""Well, there MUST be a Santa, because otherwise it would be you and Dad buying all this stuff, and I know Dad is way to cheap to spend this kind of money!""
Lois's oldest DS
Karen
"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't
Karen
""Well, there MUST be a Santa, because otherwise it would be you and Dad buying all this stuff, and I know Dad is way to cheap to spend this kind of money!""
Lois's oldest DS
Karen
"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't
...Well, I'd say that money would probably be *a* reason for *any* WOHM (else why not volunteer? ;)... I was asking you if it was your *only* reason- which you answered with this post- thank you.
Wytchy
A lot of universities do put time limits on the validity of courses for degrees.
I disagree. Our personal and public lives are separate.
Yes, I chose my career. Choosing a career does not make what I do my job. What makes it my job is going to work and taking care of business for someone else. My career belongs to me but my career is not my job. My job is what I do for a living, which may or may not mesh well with my chosen career.
My children are part of my personal life. My personal life is structured the way I chose to have it structures. It's not dictated by anyone but me and therefore my responsibility. What I have in my personal life is what I work to support.
You have a strange view of personal time. Is your husband not on personal time when he's home from work? If not, whose time is he on? I'm on my employers time when I am at work and my time when I'm home. I don't believe anyone elses time comes into the picture.
You'll have to explain to me how you could add a 40 hour a week job, transporting children to day care, chores like packing day care bags and extra laundry and things NOT get harder. I don't believe it. When I'm on vacation and I choose to stay home, life is a lot easier and I usually handle major projects during those times.
This year, I'm stripping wallpaper over Christmas break. Life will still be easier than it is when I'm working full time because I'm not picking up 40 hours+ of work and I'll be on my time doing my own thing which is fun not a job.
When I'm working, I have to pack the chores I do into less time than you have and there are more chores to do so even if they're divided with a spouse, your time is still more full. Hour per hour at home, yes, I think working moms do more. Add in the job and they do a lot more.
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