SAH parenting- "job" or not?

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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am

SAH parenting- "job" or not?



  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • Obligatory 'Other'


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-18-2005 - 11:46am
That is hilarious....It is weird here...I don't get it...My DD#2 was 2 weeks early and weighed a whopping 8lb 10oz. She just didn't gain after that LOL!! I think at 1 yr she was 15lbs. BUT my DS was exactly 4 weeks early, and he weighed 9lbs 3 oz and was 22 in long. He was a HORSE. The doctors said he would have been about 13 lb. full term. UGHH!
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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 11:54am

I agree. I have one who didn't care who was holding him and one who hated to held by anyone, including me. Dylan even slept in the dcp's assistant lap at naptime in the rocking chair because he didn't like sleeping alone. Dylan was the one who insisted on co-sleeping, not me. The girls all slept in our room for at least 4 months (Joy for 10 months but not our bed. And they napped in the living room on the floor until they started to not to stay put on the blanket. Then they napped in their cribs. Dylan never slept alone until he moved out of our room at age 4. He had to be touching someone while asleep. Drove me crazy for 2 years until he moved to his own bed in our room.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 11:57am

True. Because this is a print medium, I have a tendancy to forget that not everyone is as "vertially challenged" (as my 2 oldest put it--they are 5 ft tall at almost 28 and 25) as we are. Dh is 5'7" and I'm 5'3".

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 12:02pm

Even Dylan's karate class has parent volunteers who help with the lessons, take the money, sign in the students, etc. With 15+ students, ages 6 and up, in each 45 minute class, if it wasn't for the parents volunteering, no instruction would be given.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-18-2005 - 12:34pm
WOW...That is a trip. My oldest DD took Tae Kwon Do when she was 6, 7, and 8. I paid a TON of money every month for her to take her classes. We could watch from the lobby but weren't allowed in the gym area during class time. Most parents dropped off and left. No parental involvement was really allowed. For what I had to pay them...I had better not have to lift a finger.
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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 12:45pm
There may be an issue with smells from leaving the dirty socks on the floor but there won't be an issue from bugs or mold. No issue with bugs since the large ones aren't interested in socks and the microscopic ones are inert on socks. No issue with mold either. A sock left on the floor will dry out and thus not mold. The only time I ever saw socks mold (mildew)was when dh stuffed sweaty gym clothes into his gym bag and then left the bag in the trunk in the summer sun for days. Mold doesn't grow without moisture and the moisture in socks won't last on the floor. The problem is purely aesthetic. But the one who is aesthetically bothered by it can perhaps curb this laziness by putting aesthetics on hold, ignoring the socks, and letting the person run out of socks.
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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 12:50pm

I don't know how the upper belt classes are run. Dylan is a 3rd degree yellow belt. He will graduate to orange belt in January which will also have parent volunteers. His classes are held at a church, not a formal dojo. White through orange belt classes are held at the church. I don't know where the upper classes are taught.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 1:14pm

Same experience here. Ds sinse (sp?) keeps stressing taht this is a FAMILY activity. He wants the parents and siblings all taking classes together. Not only do the fanilies take classes, help with classes, etc, we also have BBQs and parties for all the families once a month. If I took my ds to a class and they said parents wait in the lobby, I would run far far away.

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-18-2005 - 1:42pm

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Why? Her instructor needed total attention. The lobby is right in front with a 2 way mirror. I could stand there and watch her. Even if I couldn't I would not run far away. It is her instructional time...not time for her to be watching me watching her.

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Sun, 12-18-2005 - 2:12pm

It depends on how you view the activity. In the dojo ds is at, it is considered a family activity, so staying in the lobby would not make the activity family oriented. As a matter of fact, sinse gets mad at parents who don't stay and participate or at least watch. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with watching from the lobby (I know at baton twirling, the coach has had to have words with some of parents because they talk too loud or try to interfere with the class), but it's just not for us personally.

Susan

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