SAH parenting- "job" or not?

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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am

SAH parenting- "job" or not?



  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • Obligatory 'Other'


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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 1:49am
Your mileage may vary.
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:12am
Deleted! Forgot I had already responded.


Edited 12/19/2005 8:16 am ET by laurenmom2boys
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:14am
If my kids want clean clothes they better bring their dirties down to the basement to be washed. If they don't, they don't get clean clothes. They're old enough to be responsible for making sure they're in the basement to be washed. I've stopped bringing their laundry downstairs for about 6 months now.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:16am
Do they have the option of washing their own clothes if they don't bring them down?
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:21am

<> When someone says something to the affect, "Dh's job is over and can relax after work and my job is never done," yeah, I would say that's whining. It reflects a "poor me, my job is never done, I have to do everything" kind of attitude. I've heard that enough from different people to think if they want their day done, then don't clean up everyone else's messes, make sure they clean them up themselves.

<> If I had to pick up a pair of socks occassionally, I wouldn't mind. Thankfully my DH has always been neat about hanging up his clothes and putting his dirty stuff in the hamper. It's never been an issue with us. However, I have two boys who are slobs. I refuse to clean up their rooms when they're perfectly able to do it themselves. After all, they'll be on their own in about 7 or fewer years, so they need to learn to do it themselves. I feel like they should be responsible for their own messes. *shrugs*

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:23am
They could. I haven't taught them yet, but we're getting close to that day. The only problem is if I have stuff in the washer and dryer, I'm not sure I want them just dump that stuff in a basket or in the dryer on high. I really like having control over the washer and dryer. I'm weird in that sense. ;-)
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:28am
If I were a SAHM now, yes, it would be easier. My kids are 11 and almost-13. They're in school all day. It would be completely my decision as to whether I clean the bathroom or read a book or bake or declutter or go shopping.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:31am
I hung on to doing the family wash for just that same issue, control. But many of the problems that I thought would come about didn't. The only problem I have with everyone doing their own laundry is our laundry room is not large enough for the sorting aspect of laundry so the piles of dirty laundry are in the kitchen. With the kid all doing their own it ofen seem like someone is always doing laundry and my kitchen always has clothes in it.
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:35am

<>

Let's not go down that road ... please! I beg you!<

LOL

Just keep repeating to yourself: "They are 2 yos with hormomes." And "It's only 5 years."

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 8:35am
In a lot of ways I'm glad my washer and dryer are in the basement. That's one of them! I always seem to have a ton to wash. I really don't mind washing it all. I just like having the help bringing it all down and carrying it back up to their rooms.

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