SAH parenting- "job" or not?

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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am

SAH parenting- "job" or not?



  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • Obligatory 'Other'


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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:11am

Each of the kids' laundry can fit into one load. I don't sort Dylan's clothes. Angela doesn't sort hers. I do sort dh's and my laundry: whites/lights and darks--2 loads. The sheets are done in one load--ours and Dylan's together. The towels are one load. I do 4-5 loads a week--our 2 loads on Thurs; towels and sheets (not every week in the winter) on Fri; and Dylan's on Sat. Angela does her usually on Sun. Everything gets washed on cold except for the towels (hot) and I don't use bleach at all.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:14am

No! Not at all! *chuckle* :) I love what I do and my DH appreciates and enjoys it wholeheartedly. Why would that make me feel subserviant? :)

Wytchy

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:21am
So why do you think women even bothered in the '70s to have a sexual revolution?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:21am
My youngest was a velcro baby who napped infrequently, and once she outgrew the Baby Bjorn I used the backpack all the time at home, though our house sounds a little bigger than yours. Dd did like to grab things as we walked around, but it enabled me to vaccuum, cook dinner and stuff like that without listening to her scream her head off. The key is to get a good pack like the Kelty that has sternum and hip straps to take the pressure off your back. We went everywhere with ours.
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:23am

***When someone says something to the affect, "Dh's job is over and can relax after work and my job is never done," yeah, I would say that's whining.***

*Chuckle* OK, I guess. Personally I *enjoy* puttering around the house etc. after DH gets home, but I can see where you may have thought that.

***I've heard that enough from different people to think if they want their day done, then don't clean up everyone else's messes, make sure they clean them up themselves.***

I guess. Around here that just doesn't happen and it drives me crazy looking at the mess. I'd rather clean it up and not have to look at it.

***If I had to pick up a pair of socks occassionally, I wouldn't mind. Thankfully my DH has always been neat about hanging up his clothes and putting his dirty stuff in the hamper. It's never been an issue with us.***

;) That's good (about your DH ;). Mine just doesn't *notice* or forgets or *whatever*. It's like following around after a toddler sometimes LOL. I've gotten used to it though so it doesn't bother me. And frankly, it's not like it takes up that much time so why harp on it? It's just that I'm a "put it away when you're done with it" kinda gal and he's a "I'll do it in a minute/when I get a chance" kinda guy... LOL

***However, I have two boys who are slobs. I refuse to clean up their rooms when they're perfectly able to do it themselves. After all, they'll be on their own in about 7 or fewer years, so they need to learn to do it themselves. I feel like they should be responsible for their own messes. *shrugs****

Absolutely! I'll definately be the same way when mine are older! LOL! ;)

Wytchy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:27am
Is there ANY role or job you could take on for your family that would make you feel subservient?

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:30am
We have a three-bag sorter in our closet. Dh and I's clothes go into the appropriate color bag (whites, lights and darks) as they're removed. Each kid has their own basket, but when it's time to wash, they bring their hamper in and sort into our 3-parter. Then we only have to take one bag/load at a time to the laundry area (which is in our hallway .. ack!). WE also have one basket in my closet for "special laundering" and one in the hall for towels, etc.
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:39am

Sorry, I don't know how to spell it. Out of curiousity, if you didn't want to pick on my spelling, then why did you?

Susan

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:52am

Don't know about okiegirl, but it bugs me when I come across a misspelt word. I edit my own typos as I type. But nothing is 100% sure so some of the less noticable ones get by. But the glaringly ones do pop out at me--mine and everyone else's.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 9:54am
Because, as I said, it confused me. And it might confuse other readers, as well. Do you want to continue writing things that might confuse others? Or would you prefer they understand what you write?

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