SAH parenting- "job" or not?

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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am

SAH parenting- "job" or not?



  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • Obligatory 'Other'


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Avatar for ahlmommy
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:23am

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Wasn't that for the CHOICE to be whatever a woman wanted to be? Not just be a WOH or WAH or SAHM? I thought that movement was to give women choices not say that only being dominant or working the right choice...what do you think it was for?

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:24am

Well, for one, when you're sitting for another child, you're no longer a SAHM but a WAHM.

But we've been down this (dead-end) road before ...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:25am
So it's all about the subjective situation and not the objective tasks?

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:26am
Did women really have the choice to WOH FT and feel good about it before that time?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:28am

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Perhaps you misread my vote then?

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:28am

I don't read all the threads here, do you?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:30am

I had one of those babies.

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:35am

I can't think of any- or I'm not understanding the question... So long as my family is happy and taken care of and appreciates what I do for them, I can't think of anything that would make me feel subserviant. Now if they took what I do for granted or expected me to do too much or what I wasn't willing to do, then OK, sure. But that's not the case, so... For instance- DH forgetting to pick up his dirty socks? Doesn't bother me because I know he honestly forgets (and if I ask him to, he *will* collect and take down the laundry etc. so it's not like he's refusing to help if I need/ask.) But if he deliberately threw his dirty socks onto the floor and said "Not my job" or "You pick them up" or whatever- THAT would make me feel subserviant. But as it is, he says "Gee thanks for taking care of the laundry" or something so why should I feel subserviant when he's clearly appreciative?

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:35am

Dinner I am okay with most of the time....but the other two, that would be a major problem.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 11:40am
That wasn't the question. I asked you...Wasn't the sexual revolution about giving women choices? Not just the choice to WOH and look down on other women that still not want to WOH?

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