SAH parenting- "job" or not?

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Registered: 06-04-2004
SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am

SAH parenting- "job" or not?



  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
  • Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
  • Obligatory 'Other'


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Registered: 11-25-2004
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:18pm
I know a lot of men who consiser a stay at home wife a status symbol but that only seems to last until the kids are in school, then they're pushing to get them back to work. Unfortunately, the men who talk about their wives like they're a status symbol aren't going to win father of the year. They seem perfectly happy to delegate child rearing to their wives. Sometimes I think it's a status symbol to them because they seem to have gotten out of raising their own children.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:19pm

No- but it's been said in enough threads and I'm virtually positive that you've been in at least a few of them... But, giving you the benefit of the doubt, I'm sure you'll be concerned enough to comment next time it's said in a thread you happen across.

Wytchy

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Registered: 11-25-2004
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:20pm
50% of marriages end in divorce. People become disabled. For many reasons, dependency can come back to haunt you. That's not a position I'm willing to place my children in when I have it within my power to offer then two parents, either of which can support them at any given time.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:23pm
My kitchen floor is my laundry sorting area too.. LOL
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:25pm
LOL.. Come on Felicia, you can't really be asking that? ;)
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:27pm
Not her, but I don't think the feeling of subservience is dependent on the type of job, but on the attitude of the other person. I could be married to a control freak, and have a FT job, and only do some of the housework, and still feel subservient. I think in order to feel subservient the other person has to view you that way.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:27pm

"Society can look at someone however they want. I just don't care. It is my life, my family, and my choices. You don't like it..so what."


Until the majority of Americans really and truly believe that having either parent (or neither parent) AH with the children, we won't develop cost effective childcare centers.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:28pm

Hence I put the (sp) next to word, as I wasn't sure of the spelling and was typing quickly.

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:31pm
OK let me elaborate.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 12:33pm
Ohhh I hate traffic.... once you move away from it, you can't go back. I grew up in LA and lived for 6 years or so in the Bay Area so I'm no stranger to traffic. Now when I visit, it drives me crazy. Here, traffic means you can only go 70 on the interstate... LOL

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