SAH parenting- "job" or not?
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SAH parenting- "job" or not?
| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:29am |
SAH parenting- "job" or not?
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a SAHM/D)
- Yes- it's a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- No- it's not a job (I'm a WOHM/D)
- Obligatory 'Other'
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It's just my unusual (for this board, anyway) view of marriage, I guess.
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***Perhaps it's confusing to you because you simply can't imagine having a DH who thinks highly paid WOH work is infinitely more valuable than any domestic chore?***
Why should it be? (More valuable) Why should money be 'infinately more valuable'?
Wytchy
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It's not, imo, about who does more or if someone's doing more than their fair share ... its about whose responsibility it is.
For us, we are *both* responsible for the housework, cooking, cleaning, childcare, etc. Who does it depends, not on whose *job* or resonsiblity it is, but on who has the motive, means and opportunity. For cooking, I have the motive (I enjoy it) and means (I'm good at it) and the opportunity. Dh really only has the opportunity. For dishes, he has the motive (he says as long as i cook good meals, he's happy doing the dishes), the means and the opportunity. I have only the means and opportunity.
For most jobs, whoever realizes it needs done and has the time first, does it. I dont' ever seem to notice when the trash is full (or remember when its trash day), so he usually does it. He doesn't seem to notice when the kids clothes are all dirty.
Works for us.
***but I still maintain there was no need in the first place for the sexual revolution if all you want to do is the domestic side of life.***
Oh sure there was- because before then men's opinions were generally far different than they are today. Whereas my DH fully appreciates and cherishes what I do domestically, before the "sexual revolution" he would have just *expected* it- no appreciation- just taken it for granted with a "hey hon- bring me a beer" as I dusted around his feet on the coffee table! LOL! ;)
Also- let's not forget- just because *some* women want the domestic side of life to the exclusion of paid employment does not mean that ALL women want that. The sexual revolution made it possible for those women who *do* want paid employment to obtain it, and in fields other than were traditionally acceptable for women to be in.
Wytchy
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