Is SAH really because the children what

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Is SAH really because the children what
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm

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Okay first I want to say hello everyone I haven't had the time to keep up with this very fast moving board :)


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Registered: 11-22-2000
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 8:37pm

They aren't different. The difference is that some people are contributing but the parents are who are doing the actual raising. It's their project, if you will.

As far as the business is concerned, whatever your employees do, you are ultimately held responsible. I'm not thinking necessarily of glorious achievements here. Whatever they do is a worthwhile contribution but even if they aren't there, the ultimate responsibility is yours. They get credit for what they do but it's not the whole thing...as the business owner you get the overall credit. By the same token, if one of them screws something up, The burden ultimately lies on you for making sure it's fixed.

OR....

(I must be getting tired because I'm starting to really come up with some stuff here....)

Maybe parents are like the real Santa, the one who lives at the north pole, and the dcp, teacher, pastor, dr, neighbors, grandparents, etc are like the elves. The big guy gets credit for the whole gig but we all know that his little helpers do a hell of a lot of the work. ;-)


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 8:38pm

About the nasty there is another poster that was thinking is you...iam not acussing you of having a alter ego like many of you do here but it does get confusing expecially when your new and trying your darndest to keep up with everyone.

No worries iam pretty thick skinned and i dont get insulted or offened to easily...imo if someone is offended it is their problem for the most part...

no worries okay forget i said anything.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 8:51pm
I am a firm believer in "It Takes a Village to Raise a Child", BUT the primary responsibility of raising the child lies on the parents. They decide which values the child is exposed, they decide who takes care of the child, they decide what fodd the chid eats, they decide many many things. The parents are the *primary* raisers and everyone else is secondary.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 8:54pm

It depends on the parent's schedules. My neighbor goes to work at 6AM every morning. His children do not wake up until 7:30. He meets the bus at 3:30 every day. That is plenty of hours before bedtime. He also works at home twice a week- so the "see" him on those mornings. He works a full 40 hour workweek.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:00pm

Full time...

7 hours 5 days a week imo for a child under 7 is a huge part of the day, my 6 year old is exahusted after her big day at school full time is 40 hours and too much for young children six and under a choice i would not make for my own infant, toddler preschooler even school aged children.

this is just a side note but children are pushed to hard they are expected to learn concepts that are way way about the norm. My first grader is learning conepts that third graders should be learning.

My 4th grader is way too advanced that is why he is now unschooled... I have more than one i unschool.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:05pm
I dont disagree Iam a parent...i know iam the main link in the upbringing of my children but i fully admit there are many ppl who take part in that upbringing and the final outcome.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:07pm

'My first grader is learning conepts that third graders should be learning.'

What concepts is your 1st grader learning that should be taught in 3rd grade? (I have a 2nd grader)

"My 4th grader is way too advanced that is why he is now unschooled"

I am confused by this- is it that you feel that your child is too advanced and therefore you are removing him from school to slow him down? Or that you think the curriculum is too advanced?

If it is the curriculum, again I would like to know what curriculum you think is too advanced? (I also have a 4th grader- but he is a little bored with the curriculum in his class and I would like to see him challenged a bit more).

J

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:08pm
Right i said that..."it depends on the parents schedules" sah wah or woh... but i had many disgree...
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Registered: 10-11-2006
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:16pm

LOL! great analogy...

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2004
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 10:14pm
ITA agree with the stress being different with different circumstances. When I had four kids under the age of 5 I was way more stressed than I am now with FTWOHM and four kids ages 5 to 11. When I was a SAHM, it was for the family - not for the kids, not for me, but for all of us as a family. There is no way my DH would have been able to work the hours he did when our kids were little if I was still working the hours I had in my career pre-kids. There is no way my kids would have had the kind of early childhoods they had if I was WOH at the time. There is no way I would have had the experience I wanted with my kids when they were little if I would have WOH. It was for the best for our whole family for me to SAH at the time. And now it is for the best for our family that I have a job that works completely around their school schedule. Any and every decision we have made has been made with the best interests of our whole family in mind - no one individual more important that any other.

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