Is SAH really because the children what

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Is SAH really because the children what
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm

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Okay first I want to say hello everyone I haven't had the time to keep up with this very fast moving board :)


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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 10:53am

Agian thanks for your post but iam going to have to agree to disagree i think work statis has much to do with raising your child i think your comparing apples to oranges when you use your example of driving a ford.

SOmone said that there career is not part of who they are i disagree with that statment.

Many ppl who were raised in the military either follow the same path or run far away...my ranch has been in my family for generations our resturaunt has been in our family for generations ones work ethic infuences how your children are raised i could go on and on. When my first dh passed away i could have sah and used welfare to survive or i could have sah and ran the ranch. I choice to sahm and work my buns off b/c i had three children to take care of and i refused to rise them on welfare and take the chance of teaching them to live on welfare...those imo are morals and values and that is raising a family.

i do see your point but i cant agree.

We grow and raise our own veggies fruit we raise our own animals... ect ect this is a part of me my family and my work and it is how i raise my kids...imo it all ties together.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 10:56am
It has everything to do with the final outcome i posted to one of the cl's above perhaps read that so i dont repeat myself.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 10:58am
BUT there is so much more to raising a child then setting rules and boundaries.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 11:00am
your very welcome...Iam also a real estate broker on the side and what i LOVE doing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 11:03am

Yes, it does thankyou i understand your point and i dont doubt you.

May i ask is your work a part of who you are as a mother a women and wife or is it just a job to you?

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Registered: 07-08-2001
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 11:12am

<<No she directed me not my opinion...there is the differenceimo ...we are to address opinions not ppl she asked me or maybe told me i forget now i was deliberalty lying that is acussing me of being a liar iam not the least bit offended or have i taken it personal i simply had to point out the remark b/c i know it is a false statment and is only intended to harm...but thanks for the hugs i appreciate that and right back atcha. >>


She was addressing your opinion. Your opinion was based on a false representation of her post. She asked why you were lying about what she said. And I didn't think you were offended, but thanks for clarifying that. I'm glad you weren't.


How do you know her statement was intended to harm?

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03


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Registered: 06-30-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 11:12am

I wholeheartedly agree that what you do and who you are matter a great deal in how you raise your children.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 11:13am

OK, this one cracks me up, everytime. I'm near 40. The vast majority of my SAH friends growing up are now adults with their histories now.

The ones with the most kid difficulty, broken marriages, divorces (the "hottest" chicks in the early 80s are now all mid aged divorcees struggling to make a living LOL).... are all from..... SAH families.

I dare not assume it's the SAH that influenced their outcome, do I? (because personally, I would find that idiotic).

Mondo

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Registered: 07-08-2001
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 11:18am

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There you go again...now don't think I'm calling you a liar, okay? But that is not what was said. What was said is that their career does not influence how they parent (I'm paraphrasing). Surely you know there is a big difference between the two statements, or you wouldn't twist those words around!


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Registered: 10-11-2006
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 11:19am

oh baloney...Iam not back peddeling at is not clear...To have a discussion we have to discuss I claimed teachers are educators b/c i was making it clear they are not dcp...it should be common sense educators care for children or they would not be teaching.

Calling someone dear is a term or endearment...it is a kind gesture but i appologize and will not use that term with you agian i see it get posters upset i think they take it as im being rude or baiting but im not it is a habit. Fogive me.

Viewing ones opinion as pathetic is not a contradicition it is a view and it is NOT calling you a name.

Had i said you pumpkinangle are this or that...that is name calling.

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