Is SAH really because the children what
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Is SAH really because the children what
| Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm |
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Okay first I want to say hello everyone I haven't had the time to keep up with this very fast moving board :)
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What? do i believe what is the same? or there is any right way for any of what?
Bringing up children?
You have to do what is best for you...i cannot make that choice.
Who's we? you may not be talking about a 40 hour a week, but IAM... it is not a healthy upbringing to be away from some form, of family, 5 day's a week, 40 plus hours. IMO ... what about those two day's? how does that make up for the 5?
Edited 10/13/2006 7:44 pm ET by yesmomma
chiming in wickedly late on this one...
>>My question is SAH (aside from a child with special needs) ever truely about the children? To mean it seems that most of us do what we do because that is what we as mothers want.<<
its six of one, half a dozen of the other. not only am i more liely to want to be at home (working or not, doesn't matter to me) but the fact that i have a child makes it even more important to me to stay at home.
>>The reason I am posing this question is we often say I "stay home for my children" but it seems more it is because as "a mother you want to be with your children"<<
again, its a little of both. although i will say there are days when i do not want to be at home with a toddler, as cute as she is LOL. i do feel that having me at home, rather than someone else is beneficial to my DD. its also beneficial for me, but thats not the first and foremost reason i SAH. its more like a bonus (or a curse, depending on the day!) that i get to be with her all day.
i have noticed, and i am speaking only of *my* child, that my daughter does better deveolpmentaly, behavourlly (sp?) and her general temperment is much better if she has spent the majority of her time with me. next in line would be her nana, then her poppy, then her father. she does poorly with people she hardly knows, or doesn't know at all. (distant family, baby sitters, friends etc). for example, this is the third job i've had durig my DD's life. its also the second time i've had to leave the job (or leave it early in this case) because my DD's health and behavours began to decline.
the longer i was at work, the worse it got. she refuses to sleep, to eat, has more tantrums and regresses more than usual. this is the third time this has happened. and while she's now at the age where she might manipulate this to happen, she was not able to do this when she was younger.
so, to make a long post short (too late!) for whatever reason, she just does better with momma at home. this is a huge benefit to her, and i do remain at home for that reason first and foremost. anything else is gravy.
Forgive me for twisitng your words but the bottomline is...you think that dcp are not a part of raising children that your sis and grandmother are not a part of your upbringing and i find that to be ignorant ...and that teachers feel at times they are dcp b/c of bad day's or wait baby sitter's.
In a group of teachers i would highly respect that comment but for a person who claims to know what it means to raise children and has none of her own i find it "ignorant"
understood... but iam curious as to why you would talk about someone in a room as if they were not there... then quote them or others.
Strange.
Edited 10/13/2006 11:41 pm ET by yesmomma
I can not imagine that life does not change thru work ...how do you feed your kid's how do you pay your mortgage how do you bring up your kids....raise your family? ?
i realize my children may not take out my path... my two oldest have not but i love them all the same.
Edited 10/13/2006 10:50 pm ET by yesmomma
My mistake... may i ask HOW THEY ARE A BIT OF BOTH?
let's define both...half and half...:) no...i may be wrong...
so the educator of your children is half a ?DCP and half a educator...?
if so i find that view ignorant.
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