Is SAH really because the children what

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Is SAH really because the children what
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 1:02am
i am sure it is best for your kids, or at least you think it is. but that doesnt mean it is best for all kids. my kids, i dont think it matters one way or the other. i have woh and they were fine, i have sah and they were fine - i just didnt see any difference in my kids. but then i have kids who are pretty easy going and tend to just go with the flow. as a woh my kids got certain opportunities that they didnt get when i sah, but i cant think of one thing i do as a sahm that i didnt do as a wohm.
Jennie
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 1:11am

I didn't say they were marked. I said explain the marked differences. But I have a feeling you know that and instead of just answering the question you decided to to a little dance with words.

You said <<<<<>>>> And I want to know what the marked differences are in that outcome between sah and woh kids.

It's a very simple question, really.

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 3:37am

This is a very important point. I have always worked - right back after DD was 6 weeks old (however only for 3/4 days a week). At one point when she was just turning 3, I took a sabattical to try out working for my DH and to allow me to be home for greater flexibility. SHe was very upset by this. She kept asking why I didn't go to my office anymore. She all of the sudden wanted to go see my co-workers. She wanted to keep going to "school". She didn't want anything to do with me in the mornings and actually would physically try to push me out of the room because "daddy wake Jenna up". The change in routine was very upsetting to her. And strangely she is not a rountine needy kid.

However, her life up to that point had been structured a certain way and the new way was upsetting at that time. It might be different now, but at that moment in time, me working was what she knew and understood.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 5:11am

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What opportunities? I think that's extraordinary. I would definitely WOH if my children were being deprived, no question.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 5:58am

So, the daycare will expel 3 yr-olds who are not yet potty-trained? Because pre-schools here will do that.

Pre-schools charge a premium because of the quality and intensive learning curriculum covered during the little time spent there (say 3 hrs/weekday for 9 months).

Say, parents pay $14K for those 15 hrs/wk - 9 mths/year. Are you saying, the parents who use the daycare only part for 36 to 40 hours/week for 12 mths/year are paying at that same expensive rate - almost $40K for a daycare center, and no pre-school??

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 6:03am

<<"because it is all about the children" is maytrish and frustrating for those of us that WOH.>>

Well, that's your issue and you'll have to learn to grow up, I guess. I quit a job to sah and raise my children. Maybe you think I quit to sah and eat bon bons. You'd be wrong.

Don't you woh to raise your children? Or are you selfishly secreting your earnings away for yourself and DH only?

There may be more reasons to woh than just to raise your kids. But the only reason I quit a job to sah was to raise my kids. The first step was seeing that we could afford it and then it was a no-brainer after that.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 6:11am
My kids play with friends and do a myriad of other things over the summer (travel abroad, swim lessons, bike, roller skate, hike, children's museum/aquarium, zoo, numerous playgrounds and indoor playplaces too) BECAUSE there is a sahp home to care for them or drive them to these places on a daily basis. They don't need to see the same faces everyday at daycare, nor do they need the same playstructure and toys everyday. That's perfectly acceptable, but we chose something different. I can't see why that would bother anyone else.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 6:16am
Thankfully we haven't known any teachers insensitive to our children's needs. Quite the opposite, especially when it comes to tailoring their educational experience to their specific intellectual potentials - our school has gone above and beyond for which my oldest DD, DH and I are eternally grateful.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 6:17am
Oh, well, I think it's an interesting debate topic.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 6:19am
Not the OP, but....Unfortunately, it is becasue of a practical reason. The preschools around here that require potty training do so because it requires an additional health license and costs additional money. I know of no daycare around here that requires it.

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