Is SAH really because the children what

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Is SAH really because the children what
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm

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Okay first I want to say hello everyone I haven't had the time to keep up with this very fast moving board :)


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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 7:42am

OK, just to be clear. You're saying the daycare will expel a child not potty-trained by age 3?

There are so many children in daycare who will not respond to potty-training by their 3rd birthday, and some not even until their 4th.

I'm still confused why anyone would pay the same hourly rate for daycare (which is not educational in nature but more play-based) that a parent would pay for a pre-school. Pre-schools generally charge tuition without regard to a parent's salary - they consider the costs of running a pre-school, teachers' salaries, school supplies, fully-stocked libraries, what the market will bear, etc. Daycares generally consider individual salaries for that particular locale - and then tailor costs to be no greater than a single income for a dual-wohp household.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 7:49am
My kids have not missed out on a thing by not being in a daycare.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 7:54am

I think it is an extraordinary thing for a parent to acknowledge that by sah, his child will miss out on opportunities.

And I further think it's extraordinary for a person to sah with one child and knowingly deprive him of opportunities when that same parent woh for the other children so that they were not deprived of opportunities.

I wouldn't doubt you and I disagree on the definition of "opportunities." I'm not talking about a child doing without a Gameboy. I'm talking about opportunities such as a decent education.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 8:14am

"I think it is an extraordinary thing for a parent to acknowledge that by sah, his child will miss out on opportunities."

I again do not think it is extraordinary but very common. Work status decisions are not based only on opportunities that the child may get but on many varied things so it may be in the best interest for a family to have a even though it may mean a child missing out on opportuinies.

"And I further think it's extraordinary for a person to sah with one child and knowingly deprive him of opportunities when that same parent woh for the other children so that they were not deprived of opportunities."

Again not extraordinary. Lives change, situation change, sometimes it may be better to SAH other times it may be better to WOH. We make decisions based on what is happening now in our lives not on what happened in our past.

"I disagree on the definition of "opportunities."

Whose definition of opportunies do you disgree with? A game boy was not mentioned in my post but a college eduacation was.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 8:26am
Exactly. The first 5 yrs are so important. What happens in the first 5 years leaves an imprint on the person for the rest of their lives.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 8:29am
"WoW" is right. You haven't understood a single thing from my post.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 8:49am

I'll explain. When my children were 18 months, they started at the computer doing Reader Rabbit, Jumpstart, etc. That's when we started reading books, doing the flashcard thing, workbooks, manipulatives, etc.

But I'd never been able to do more than a half-hour a day of flashcards, workbooks, etc. with them. Reading books was no more than another half-hour too. Somedays, just 10 minutes. That's all they gave/have given me, and I didn't want to force them and jeopardize their enjoyment of reading and learning.

But when my oldest entered Kindergarten, that's when I was very surprised to witness the "immense" volume of classwork they'd do and the paperwork in her folders that she'd bring home having *completed* each day at school - often 20 pages of coloring and writing/math. And that was just the stuff she'd bring home. So much is expected of them that I didn't know they could do! Exs. - formal public speaking, team debates, publishing books that they write and illustrate (and we parent-volunteers print up and bind).

So, my surprise came from how much can be achieved in a full day of Kindergarten that I could not accomplish at home. Another reason no one will catch me homeschooling. ;)

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 9:30am
Understood?

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 9:38am

Nice effort at some kind of admittedly confusing disclaimer at the end of your post.

But Kbmamm herself has posted that for some inexplicable reason, couples with a sahm are statistically less likely to divorce.

Clearly, your SAH friends growing up are not the norm. (So, you might want to stop laughing!)

<> You?? Never, LOL!

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 9:54am

"sahp is still with child longer than wohp."

While I agree with the statement above, I wonder that SAHM's think this means when I read statements like this. Do people really think parnting is, somehow, based on face time?

I've seen uninvolved almost neglectful SAHP's and wonderfully involved and engaged WOHP's. What does parenting have to do with face time? In your face time I could understand (time actually spent interacting with children) but I've read a few articles that indicate that the difference in actual interaction time is much smaller than most would think.

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