Is SAH really because the children what

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Is SAH really because the children what
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:40am
Wow! Kudos to you and your fiance for stepping in to make a bad situation better! Those children are very fortunate to have you.

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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:44am
Either you don't know much about daycare, or you don't know much about kindergarten, or both.
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:50am

Here (CA), teachers do not control the # of students (or the mix) that are in their classes. Nor can they control recess, gym, or leaving the classroom. That is done at the district or state level. 1st-5th at the elementary school here have 20 minutes in the morning for recess (that includes eating a morning snack) and 45 minutes for lunch/recess. Gym is only one day a week for about 30 minutes. They are in the classroom for 5 hours and 15 minutes (4 hours and 20 minutes on Thurs). For children who need to burn off a large amount of energy, that 65 minutes of outside time a day isn't enough. Then add in to that that most (imo and from what I've read in the local paper) children don't walk to school even it they live close enough to do so. I can see where some days, it does seem like babysitting. And that feeling isn't limited to just the early educational years. Friends that are high school teachers have said that they have days like that as well.

Chris

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:50am
We did it over a 5 day break. I used the naked method. It worked for both sons by the third day.
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:54am
it is not a matter of expelling them you are not allowed to enroll them unless they are potty trained. i guess if you lie about them being potty trained to get them in and they arent at that point you would be asked to take them elsewhere.
i have yet to see a daycare that runs any differently than a preschool for the 3-5 age group. they both do alot of play and they both do alot of educational things, of course for that age group most educational activites are thru play anyway. and i have never seen a daycare that charged based on the parents salary. all daycares i have seen have fuly stocked libraries, qualified teachers, school supplies, etc....
Jennie
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 10:58am

IMO, it's far less manipulative than it is respectful toward the children.

I think that any time we're caring for someone else's child, there has to be a good balance between our own rules and the rules that they are accustomed to with he parent, particularly in a situation such as this one where the goal is for the parent and children to someday be back together. I've been very close to a situation where this did not happen and believe me, not having that balance makes it more difficult for both the caregiver and the children.

To not follow the parents' wishes would present way too much inconsistency for the children. These kids are already in a tough spot without having the further disruption of having to deal with a "my way or the highway" situation.




Edited 10/14/2006 11:00 am ET by lauren1063

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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 11:30am
ITA!!
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 11:55am

forgive me i misread. "pushing kids" not punishing kids

also i forgot to asnwer a question yes, our school has advanced and gifted classes.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 11:55am
Really? Seems to me that most (if not all) of the dc's I've used or interviewed required 3-yr-olds to be potty-trained.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 11:58am
See, that's how you can tell the difference. If they're still pooping in their pants at 25, they had a WOHM.


Edited 10/14/2006 12:01 pm ET by lauren1063

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