Is SAH really because the children what

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Is SAH really because the children what
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm

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Okay first I want to say hello everyone I haven't had the time to keep up with this very fast moving board :)


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Registered: 10-11-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:00pm

I do have to add i highly doubt they are all sah parents as you claim but ill give you the benifit of the doubt...

it would be neat to see a stat of divorce rate and job statis.

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Registered: 10-11-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:07pm

So how you raise your children is not a part of your identity? it is mine...raising my children is a huge part of who iam my identity... when you say retire from the law iam going to assume you are attorney.. are you raising your child/children to be janitors or are you raising them to get a education perhaps even become a lawyer...

I think you would parent your children very difffernetly if you were home all day wit them.




Edited 10/14/2006 12:12 pm ET by yesmomma
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:21pm

Based on posts in the past - where links were provided- Families with sahps had somewhat lower divorce rates than families with duel wohps. HOWEVER, they do not account for self selection.

For example, I have several friends who remain in the workforce after having children *because* their marriages were on the shakey side - one is now divorced. I also know a few sahms who may have divorced if they were able to find a job that would cover their bills.

J

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Registered: 10-11-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:27pm
I dont disagree with you of course it takes balance, but i dont agree with changing the structure of my home my morals and my values... how i raise my children... for my sister's children ...and imo she is definetly helping raise these kids.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:30pm
The daycares with which I am familiar had children under three- so they aready had their health license. The daycare that my boys attended double the enrollment at age three. There were probably 30-40 3 year olds in the "class" (grouped by 10s) and maybe one or two was still in diapers and all were out in the first few months. There were perhaps another 30-40 half day preschool kids at the facility too- and they were not required to be potty trained either.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:36pm

Do you actually read people's posts on this thread?

I never said that I didnt think my grandmother or sister were part of my upbringing. Of course they are. As are the rest of my relatives, family friends, friends of mine, those friends' parents, neighbors, etc. My dcp was also a PART of my upbringing. Just like those other people. Did she raise me? Nope. My parents raised me.

And Im not sure I really understand the rest of your post. Are you saying its ignorant for a teacher of very young children to some days feel like she's babysitting b/c the kids are acting up and she spends a lot of time on behavioral stuff?

I think it's ignorant to believe that that would never happen. Im an administrative assistant in my part time job and some days I feel like my boss' personal lackey, a telemarketer, a perpetual peace maker among people in the office who don't get along, a social worker (I work with the elderly), etc. Im none of those things but on some particularly hectic or insane days, I can feel like all that and more. How is that ignorant?

And just a word of advice...I know it's the internet and peope use all types of shorthand and acronyms, but a little punctuation here and there can go a long way.

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:39pm

Good morning. Thank you, we are trying to do our best.

 

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:43pm

I dont see how what I said could be confusing. But I will try to break it down further.

Most days my friend loves her job. She loves kids, get along with them well and enjoys being with them all day. Shes a good teacher.

However, she has a few kids (like I have said in my previous posts) who are more active than the others. To further clarify, kids who are somewhat hyper and have shorter attention spans. To add to that she also has several kids who's parents clearly don't set limits or discipline at all and the kids have no manners and are pretty wild.

So on some days if those kids are all acting up and get the other kids wound up too, she spends a lot of time on behavioral stuff. Not the whole day certainly. But enough time where she can end up frustrated that all she intended to do that day didnt get done because she needed to spend time on things that a dcp or a parent normally would such as sharing or not hitting or listening to the word no.

Im not sure if I can say anything else about such a simple point.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:55pm
Extraordinary?

Sabina

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Registered: 10-11-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 12:57pm

Thank for the advice...but no thanks. YOur contradicting yourself if your grandmother your sister your dcp ect ect are or were a part of your upbrining they were a part of raising you.

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