Is SAH really because the children what
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Is SAH really because the children what
| Fri, 10-06-2006 - 3:33pm |
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Okay first I want to say hello everyone I haven't had the time to keep up with this very fast moving board :)
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I am not raising her kids because I am not instilling my values and beliefs into them, nor am i collaborating with her on with her on what is appropriate for those kids.
Im not sure what your trying to say here...
maybe the actual poster i replied to will post sometime in the future.
posters are claiming their work statis is not a part of raising their children how can that be true if they admit that their work statis is a part of their identity.
btw ones parenting style is just a facet of raising a child. It takes much more than a paretning style to raise children...imo.
Jennie
I am not EGD but I did ask DH, just for fun, who he thinks raised our kids more when I was a SAHM. He said, "We both raised them, you just did more of the physical 'raising' while we both worked on the general raising."
Maybe that is what EGD is referring to? Some SAHM's feel it is necessary to do all of the physical aspects of raising their kids. I know there are more aspects to raising kids other than who changes the diapers, prepares the food, cleans up the messes, etc. In fact the other parts of raising kids are in many ways much more important than some of those physical jobs, but since a SAHM is the one doing all those physical jobs maybe that is what they mean when they say "I SAH to raise my kids"?
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Maybe they really don't get anything wrong on their homework. My DD is in the 5th grade this year and this is the first time she has ever gotten questions wrong on her homework. My DS's are in 3rd and 1st grades and they have yet to get a question wrong on their homework. It is possible, you know ;)
um,maybe because homework doesn't determine whose getting it or not.
coincidentally,this was just brought up at conference last week. i had told the teacher that dd1 brought home *graded* homework with problems marked wrong that were indeed correct. the teacher assured me that homework were just tools to help keep children on task of what they're doing. when homework is turned in,they pass their papers to their neighbors and all grade them together. neighbor must have marked wrong something that was correct,no big deal.
i think homework is an important standard for kids to follow through with. i also think it's a way parents should stay in tune with their kids school work........sure the responsibility is theres to do,but if a parent isn't at least finding out what homework they have,then that parent has just expressed little interest in the education of their child. a risky proposition considering that schools get bad raps for stuff parents have a responsibility to do.
Hey, I work with MS and HS kids and there are days I still feel like a DCP!
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There's no inherent contradiction between feeling one's work status is part of one's identity and also feeling that it has nothing to do with the way they parent.
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
I need to state first off that I don't believe that WOHMs are not raising their kids, I am a WOHM and I know I am raising my kids...
With that said, I know that my kids' teachers are assisting me in the raising of my kids. They are "raising" certain areas of my kids that I don't have enough knowledge or expertise in to get my kids to the level that I want them to be at. I SAH when my kids were young but I wouldn't say that I was the only one "raising" my kids - they had my friends, Sunday School teachers, grandparents. They all assisted me which I think is what is being talked about on here. Some SAHMs say they SAH to raise their children because they don't want the assistance of DCPs. WOHM's are raising their children, they just have the assistance of DCPs to help them. That is why WOHMs interview and carefully select DCPs - because they want the same type of guidelines, rules, etc from the provider that they would have if they were to SAH with their kids. If a DCP was not assisting in the raising of the child, there would be no need to be quite as particular in the choosing of one. Any old person would do in the care of a child. But since the child takes something away from the experience of being in DC, it is important to have a provider who shares the same philosophy of care as the parents.
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