SAHM becoming WOHM

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Fri, 10-24-2008 - 1:36pm
I'm feeling that lack of fulfillment that I've heard a few people mention with being a SAHM. DH is in the Army and is gone a lot, which leaves me with our one year old by myself for many hours and often days on end. I'm also a full time college student until May, but I'm finishing up my degree online so I am still not leaving the house. We want a big family (4 or 5 children) but I'm pretty sure that I can't handle being a SAHM for too terribly much longer. My question is how did you all who were SAHMs make the decision to be a WOHM? Also, for any who can answer this, how do you cope with having to put your 6 week old babies in daycare to return to work after maternity leave? I know my ds will be fine in daycare when it comes time if I do jump into working, because he would be almost 2 at that point and would enjoy the interaction I think. It's more of a question of how I can deal with having *more* children and putting them in daycare as week olds? I've gotten to the point where I know that something else has to happen for me when I graduate in May, but I'm dealing with emotional residue now lol

Julianne


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Fri, 10-24-2008 - 3:11pm
hello!! well, i guess you just cross that bridge when you get to it. i would think that dropping a lil baby off at a daycare center would be pretty much the same as dropping daley off. yes youer going to miss your kids, but its time to do adult stuff now and that involves working. i didnt like leaving my kids with a sitter to go to work, but it has to be done. i have to work-we need the money-and honestly-i would go nuts being here all day every day with them. i have a lot of respect for sahms-my sister is one-but i couldnt do it. i know that. to be honest-for me-being away from my kids help me appreciate them more. i miss them-i love seeing them when i get home. you just devote your time to them when youre not at work. i get my kids up every day for school, i help my oldest with her homework, we do family things together on my days off, etc. sah or woh-were all moms-were all devoted to our kids...i think thats the most important issue here...and you and your kids will adjust when you do start woh whether they are 2 years or 2 months old. take care!!
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Fri, 10-24-2008 - 4:16pm
early congratulations to you and graduation..i'm a little confused as to why you want a large family if sah is something you can't tolerate for long.

 

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Fri, 10-24-2008 - 7:41pm
I think daycare is easier when they're babies -- their needs are simple -- sleep, eat, cuddle, play -- when they're older and well into school that's when they become complicated. MY daughter is 9, i've worked since she was 14 weeks old -- an dhonestly it's only NOW I wished I could be home with her more.

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Mon, 10-27-2008 - 1:23pm

Are you absolutely certain you really want a large family? Or is that something that you guys thought you wanted (and your husband still may), but you'd like to reconsider? Obviously, this isn't something for you to announce to this board, but I really do think you should think about it before having more kids.


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Mon, 10-27-2008 - 2:54pm
You know, I've thought a lot about it and whether or not I'm the kind of person that could handle a bunch of kids. I think I'll know better once I have more than one but right now I feel confident in saying we want a bigger family. Times change though, so you never know. With our income the way it is right now I would have to be working for us to make that work, I believe. They have pretty reasonable daycare around here where we live but I guess it all boils down to what happens with a job. Right now I'm looking at one that is pretty demanding out of the home, and then another job that would require me to work from home. I'm not sure which is going to end up being better because I would still have my responsibilities with ds yet be required to work as well. That sounds hectic for the work from home plan.

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Sat, 11-01-2008 - 7:39pm
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Tue, 11-04-2008 - 11:06am
hye I work a full time job but also some nights and weekends in a bookstore -- it comes in handy at xmas time with that discount doesn't it?

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Tue, 11-04-2008 - 11:18am

hye I work a full time job but also some nights and weekends in a bookstore -- it comes in handy at xmas time with that discount doesn't it?


It does come in handy.


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Thu, 11-06-2008 - 10:46am
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