Is SAHM a Job?

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Is SAHM a Job?
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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 3:37pm

I recently started reading stfuparentsblog and fell in love with it. The blogger pokes fun of parents from submitted facebook and twitter updates. She's a real riot to read, probably because my kids are older and I've been out of the 'mommy' stage for a while now and I'm beyond taking any of it personally. It could be found offensive a little, though I think she touches on some of the subjects discussed here often.

Recently, the blogger made a guest post at mommyish asking, Can Stay-At-Home-Moms Say That They Have Jobs?

So, what do you think? Is being a SAHM a 'job'?

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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 10:24am
I know that for me the difference between the two is not a true definition but I see a career as something that one is so tied to that if they left that place of employment they would seek a job in the same field.

When one leaves a job their next job may have no connection to the previous one.

As an example waitressing can be either, for some it is just a job for others it is a career.
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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 10:28am

You said it better than I did.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 10:56am
Exactly. I don't think sah is a "job,", but it's a lot of work. To me, a job means you get paid (so I probably wouldn't consider volunteer work a job either). But I don't see it as a big deal if a sah sees it as her job.
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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 11:05am

Man, I do not even WANT that time back again.

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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 11:50am
I feel for you. Our plans don't always (almost never) come out the way we plan. Some things are out of our control. I never thought I would be a single mom of a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old (and later when my DH and I go back together we had another baby) - then he left again. I found myself a single mother again - of 3 this time. But even though times were tough, I cherish every moment I was home with my kids - raising them alone.
Your kids need you right now and you are doing the right thing by them. Sometimes the right thing is not what we want to do - but there is reward down the road. Hang in there :)
Anna wife to Sam, mom to my 3 sons, and stepmom to Sam's 2 daughters :) Work from home and love it - www.workathomeunited.com/AnnaAbma
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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 12:04pm

That is one question. Another question would be to what extent a 24/7 available mom is critical to the various developmental stages.

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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 12:09pm

I don't think I loved it as much as you did, but I feel as you do - happy to have BTDT. Apparently my step was bemoaning the fact that her kids are mostly grown (youngest is 16 or so) and babbling about wanting more babies. My brother drily suggested (to me, not to her) that she should look into getting some kittens or something.

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Fri, 08-26-2011 - 12:40pm

i think every stage of development is important. but in the context of staying home and when the best time is to do that (if the choice is there) i think thats' the early years, that's MY opinion..what is your opinion, did things change or get better when your mom returned to work when you were six (assuming she returned to work then)?

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-26-2011 - 12:43pm
i like your definition of career. :-)

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-26-2011 - 12:47pm
my mother-in-law is very good at reminding me how glad she is that those teen years are over for her too, sigh, Lol.

 

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