Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:01pm
I'm very happy with them. Each to their own lives & to live them as they desire. The whole original point of this entire debate thread.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:02pm
FUNNY slim!
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:04pm
You guys want the same thing and that's why your marriage works. That's great. I mean it.

For *me* I expect more from my dh and he, for me. That's why *our* marriage works.
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:05pm
I don't see it as a double standard. Women are encouraged to do whatever they please whether it be a career or the leisure life. No double standard. It isn't like the men are telling the wives what to do (or I would not be married to my dh or tolerate his family if they were that way). It would be a double standard IMHO if they told the women they can't work. That isn't the way it is.

My husband is doing what he desires. He'd never be one to live the life of leisure only. He is a workaholic. Look it up in the dictionary & I swear his picture is in the illustration. I know, I've lived with him for years (before marriage even).

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:06pm
ITA. I want more for my daughter.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:06pm
Actually, it's the other way around. It's the crappy waitresses who aren't servants; the good and great waitresses are absolutely servants--the best kind. they are able to serve their customers well; what other definition for servant is there?

However, the idea that waiting tables is *lucrative is just flat out laughable; I don't care if a waiter or waitress is pulling in 7 figures annually; they are working hard enough they *ought* to be earning 9 or 10 figures. There are MUCH easier ways to make that kind of living; waiting tables is HARD HARD HARD labor--I typeset and earn slightly more than $50K year...and I'll take 50% of the income you claim a good waitress can make cuz I'm doing like 10% of the physical effort she's making. MY career is all about lucrative, compared to waiting tables.

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:06pm
"For that kind of money"...lol and you dont think it a decent income. Okay sure right and im the Queen of England.




Edited 10/5/2003 3:52:08 PM ET by silverunity
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:06pm
I agree with you up until the "expect more" point. Living a life you desire is a lovely concept. I could not imagine expecting more of a person (man or woman) if they are doing that.
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:08pm
I want our daughters to do and have anything they want. The sky is the limit with our encouragement and blessing. They can desire to live in the same manner or vastly different. It is their choice, their lives.
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 4:11pm
In response to someone's post, you stated that the men in your dh's family have jobs and not live off of their family money and that having a job is encouraged and looked upon favorably. You also responded to another post saying that they don't think the women need to have careers. That sounds like a double standard to me.

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