Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:05pm
Her question was if someone is NOT working or volunteering, THEN what is their contribution?

You said someone does not have to work or volunteer to contribute . . . so what are some examples of this? How are these individuals contributing?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:06pm

I really don't care if the mom down the street hops between spa and lunch on a daily basis.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:07pm
I'm sorry, but I don't believe you know enough about my situation to comment meaningfully on whether or not I could be a "great mom" if I were practicing law at present. I strongly believe it wouldn't be possible in my circumstances. I'd get into this further but I have to go - to teach my son's K class how to make applesauce, of all things. More later.

D.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:23pm
You could become a judge instead of a litigator (tweaking you a little...)

You're right - I don't know anything about your situation. But since I can parent and work, I certainly assume there are some other attorney/parents who can make both aspects work.

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:31pm
Did I say they weren't?

I don't have anything at all against a woman working. Not even if she takes the entire check and blows it on herself. The same as I don't care what a Sahm does with her days (nights, etc).

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:33pm
#1 You don't have to cook the food, clean the house, and do your own laundry to not be contributing to your family by being home with your kids, by being available by having all the time on your side, for your husband and kids.

#2 I answered the question as it appeared she was directing it to me. I work in our school, and our church. The two most important roles outside my role of wife and mother.

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:33pm
Hilarious
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:35pm
I'm contributing on a big enough scale by the time I work in the school and church. Those 2 things are vital & very important.

I have drive. I just don't have to go outside the home to work for it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:36pm
Drive for what?

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:37pm
You deserve a blue ribbon for such a beautiful way of putting how life is in my perspective!

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