Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
| Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm |
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.
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I think being a good mom, a good wife, and a good child to your parent(s) is not only admirable but is one of the best possible things you can do with your life.
For me, walking the kids to school, seeing dh has a hot lunch every day, making sure every one has clean underwear is much more important than anything else I could be doing with my time.
My hubby. My kids. They are first, and yes, that comes before any volunteer role.
I volunteer very little, almost nil at this point since both of my kids are just in preschool and they just don't have very many opportunities in that role.
I think the life you want is fine for you but to try to say you don't respect people because they live differently is, well, it is just sad :o(
I might very well feel differently if we'd had childcare continuity problems. But we pay the absolute top of the salary scale to get a top flight nanny (and we only had one other childcare situation prior to that). I haven't found that two situations in 4 years to be too much change for my boys.
Do you want to be the glue that holds the family together, or the one for whom the family needs to held together? It's different for each person, but I don't buy the fact that I have to respect a mom who doesn't work and has full time child care help the same way I have to respect an astronaut (or a sanitation engineer).
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One of my very best friends is one of those sahms. She is one of the sweetest, kindest, most caring people, one of the best mothers and a loving & devoted wife. A woman to be admired. Who cares that she lives the fluffy life while her kids are at school all day? I don't. It is the person she is that really matters.
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Well, DH can get his own lunch :) But I make sure the kids get to school/swim class, whatever, and I do 100% of the laundry in my house and no one's ever run out of underwear. I agree this is all important stuff, which is why I do it. But I can do other things also.
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