Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 4:56pm
Because the housekeeper has to have something to do when she comes to my house twice a wk. Duh!

Do you really have a problem with a SAHM having help to clean the house? S.V.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 4:58pm
<> Yes, i can't imagine WHY on earth we couldn't do this.

eileen

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 4:59pm
Yes, *of course* I know they are not all self-absorbed and whiny. I was referring to the three women I know IRL who ARE self-absorbed and whiny.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 5:01pm
Nope. In order to have the "pure spa lifestyle", even without kids, one needs a good ammount of help. Specially in order to maintain the types of property and the lifestyle standards that tend to go along with the psl. That means the woman has a staff to manage. Thats work. It always has been. Ask any manager about that.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 5:03pm
My dh CAN get his own lunch, but WHY should he? lol Part of the beauty of having a wife at home is do take care of the little things and make them special for the husband and kids.

I can also do other things. And I do!

And p ardon me, I never said you didn't do the same things as I do. But that doesn't make them less significant in my house than yours because I'm a sahm and I get to have some fluff time every day.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 5:05pm
To my dh & I "just being available" is a contribution to this family and the running of our household (helps w/him owning his own store as well). You don't see it? Ok. But that doesn't mean it isn't so for us in this house. That was one of the top things we put on our pros/cons list when we started talking about getting married. S.V.
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 5:09pm
It's unfortunate that you haven't come across dual-WOHPs who are indeed balancing work and home and doing both well because there are some of those around.

BTW-- I thought people went into opthalmology for "lifestyle." I'm not passing judgement on your dh but it is a field where it's possible to have a less-than-crazy work schedule.
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 5:15pm
Yes. You have to manage, coordinate schedules, write their paychecks, take care of their scheduling, etc. It doesn't just happen. They don't just show up to clean, cook, and care for the kids and write their own checks.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 5:22pm
No, no, no I do have a higher regard for some people more than others ...some individuals are surely more deserving of my respect than others and it has nothing to do with work statis or how they choose to personally or fiancially fufill there lives. It does have a lot to do with how they act or represent themselves.

Do you disagree with me?




Edited 10/1/2003 5:40:22 PM ET by silverunity

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 5:25pm
I'd imagine someone living *that* much of a PSL has a personal assistant who coordinates everything for them. The PA is most likely the one who manages the staff, not the woman herself.

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