Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 6:11pm
Ok. However, I was referring to women who "live the pure spa lifestyle" most likely having a PA. You are not one of those women.
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 7:04pm
No and I can coordinate the staff all by myself
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:00pm
I agree, but would take it farther to address the stereotype we're debating. If one's lifestyle is so extreme that there's no purpose other than the pursuit of personal pleasure, I lose respect for that person's lifestyle choice.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:02pm
That's part of the personality reason I could never SAH - I would feel subservient if I prepared DH's lunch every day. This is no longer the 1950s. If you want to do it, great. But not for me.

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Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:06pm
But not for me. I pay my nanny to watch my son those 9 hours a week, but I also pay the school for those hours. I don't need the preschool for childcare.

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:36pm
Really? Geesh! I'd much rather do for my dh than go out into the work force daily. So I do.
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Registered: 09-01-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:42pm
I've never once & never once has my hubby in 16 years of marriage made me feel anything like that.

We are lovers, partners, companions. I am his half, he is mine.

He brings me flowers & serves me breakfast in bed all the time & never once has felt that way either.

I'm glad my personality is a 180 from yours.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:48pm
I just really think it is bad that a person can't just respect the person & see that is how the person desires to live and there is nothing wrong with the person living that way. I think hank & indy said it best. This country has freedoms. And when you start telling people they can't choose such a lifestyle and harp on them when they do, you are infringing on their rights and freedoms to live just as they desire.

So it isn't how you want to live? You'd do things differently? Your a different personality? Ok. But there are many of us that would never desire to live as *you* have chosen in any way. But we don't lack respect for you to have the right to live as you desire.

I could care less how people conduct their private lives (as long as they are obeying the laws of the land). They can volunteer 80 hours a week for every organization under the sun or they can pop an umbrella into a drink, pull up the chaise, put on the sunglasses and sit by the pool all day, every day of the year. Why would *I* care or give it a second thought?

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:49pm
We have the same kind of marriage. The only kind I'm interested in having

I think you put the words together perfectly. ITA.




Edited 10/1/2003 10:51:12 PM ET by muffinsandtoast

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 10:57pm
Honest question . . . what is the difference between "manage", "coordinate schedules" and "take care of their scheduling"?

I don't have a "staff." We do have a maid service come in every other week. If I want to change days, I just make a phone call. I leave a check on the table for them when they come.

I just don't see how having a staff takes so much time and effort. Isn't the point of having a staff to make things *easier*?

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