Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 8:51am
Nothing wrong with it. Just not respect-worthy.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 8:52am
Well, that is my problem. You only go around once on this earth - why are you taking up space from someone who could be making a contribution? Why don't you feel you have to give back for all of your many blessings? Why just live off the fat of the land?

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 8:58am
I understand BUT...there is a big difference between respecting a person and respecting a lifestyle choice. B/c Really the choice is none of your buisness if it does not effect your life personally and gives you no reason to believe they are unworthy of you and your respect.

Just my opinion.


Let me give you a example... Our hired hand for the stables has been married 4times now divorced and is 46 years old, he is now dating a 22 year old single mother and they are living together...I do not agree with his lifestye choices but I have the upmost respect for this man he has a heart of gold and will do anything for anyone he is a hard worker and goes out of his way to give extra. He is worhty of my respect even if i dread some of the personal experince he has had, it does not effect me it is none of my business.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 8:59am
Personally, I have never understood the appeal of breakfast in bed. The image of putting food (coffee, eggs, etc) to be spilled and leave crumbs in my bed is quite unappealing, IMHO. The only time I eat in bed is when I'm too sick to get up.

The flowers thing is nice though.

Susan

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:03am
Sounds like my house...ITA~

Our marriage is a partnership and nothing i do for my husband or my children would ever make me feel subservent and the same goes for him.

i will have to admit he is the chef for the most part in our house. LOL`

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:04am
But you still don't have to respect him.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:10am
Is it fair to turn the tables and ask what are you doing outside your family, how are you contributing?

I know you work as an attorney but what exactly do you contribute to the world by working? For all we know you are an attorney for a large tobacco firm or an organized crime gang. Just because you are employed doesn't mean everyone will agree that you are "contributing."

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:14am
No, I'm no where near a WOHP. I don't spend near the hours away that I would if I worked like I did before.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:16am
Sure. I took on the job of fundraising for older ds' preschool this year (ugh). I'm on the planning committee for the summer mission project at church. I coordinate Meals on Wheels packages - the collation and the delivery schedule. I am teaching a twice a month course at the church's continuing ed center. We give about 8 percent of our income to the church, and make donations to our colleges and law schools. We take our turn doing neighborhood watch. I am on the architectural committee for the historic district we live in.

I'm also doing pro bono work for two start up companies that may very well never pay me. But that's really for fun, even though it's legal work :)

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 9:18am
Thank you for your intelligent comments. I find them refreshing.

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