Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 10:48am
Well im not working now~ lol iam typing away at this board while my children are in school and preschool.LOL shame on me. Iam doing things that fufill me and i consider them luxeries. Even if a mother is persuing her luxuries which mean nothing to you she is fufilling her life she is worthy of my respect. (I can admit i feel a form of pity for someone as the stereotype you speak of) this is all i have been trying to say for the last few days but not doing it well i quess.

Whew~ Im gald you dont have to wear hose...YUCK! huh~


Edited 10/2/2003 10:56:32 AM ET by silverunity

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 10:54am
Yuck. I would hate to think doing things for my husband was subservient. First, I would never marry someone who viewed being helpful as subservient, and second, I would never do something purely because a man tells me to. Amazingly enough it is possible to do things for someone because you love them, not because you are told to. I'm not sure if I'm clearly expressing myself, I guess I will add that I know in my heart when/if our roles were switched, my dh would do the same for me. I definitely don't define my marriage and our roles within it by it's social implications.
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Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:00am
But you don't indulge in luxurious activities all day every day. Everyone needs a break.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:02am
If the help goes both ways consistently, it's being a partner and not being subservient.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:02am
That's easy. Because for a lot of people, their identity is wrapped up in their career. (Which I am not saying is a bad thing...)
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:06am
>>I don't see that you've answered whether you consider your nanny to be contributing more to society than your average SAH because she WOH, BTW. Still curious about that. <<

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:10am
My nanny contributes by taking care of my children. Takes care of some household things for us during the day too. Plus takes care of her own house and personal life when she's not working. Same as any working person.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:13am
Ok I think I get it now.. preschool is not childcare for you since you don't need it. So is a job not really a job if you don't need the income? It is child care (IMO) because you are paying someone to care for your child, regardless if you need it or not.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:15am
I don't get your post. Is elementary school childcare?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:23am
Your contribution is to your DH and your son. What societal contribution are you making by SAH?

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