Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Thu, 10-02-2003 - 1:25pm
See post #608

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Thu, 10-02-2003 - 1:34pm

I agree!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 1:34pm
Well I have cleaners come every two weeks, before/after care for two 5 days a week, and someone who does lawncare.

Yep, even that takes work.

I also work in the real world where I see just how much time and effort managing staff takes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 1:49pm
I came in the middle of yours and PJ's conversation to post a general thought about the thread. I am sorry you thought the post was directed to you. I will clarify more carefully in the future.

Edited to add: I also confused PJ so I should have introduced it better. Also, I have several SAHM friends that contribute to society. In fact, they are contributing more than I am right now even though I work. I had to curtail my volunteering due to my family situation.

Kristi


Edited 10/2/2003 2:00:23 PM ET by kmgalligan

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 1:56pm
I have a cleaning person who comes every other week, a gardner who comes once a week, and the sitter who comes 5 days/week. I write a check for each of them every 1-2 weeks which takes all of 30 seconds. The cleaning person and the gardner come after I leave for work so if I have anything other than the usual I'd like done, I leave them a note which takes me a couple of minutes. I talk to the sitter before I go to work and when I come home -- usually about 10 minutes each time unless there are issues.

Should I be spending more time "managing" my small "staff?"
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 1:58pm
What? You don't see the differences between a school and a childcare?

Preschools require children to be toilet trained; to be able to follow instructions and a schedule; to refrain from hitting, kicking or biting other children - need I go on? These are the differences between the family care we used to use and our son's current preschool.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 1:59pm
I realize it takes *some* work to employ help, I'm just not seeing the LOTS that you've referred to. Could you please back this up for me? How much time do you actually spend dealing with the people you have helping you out at home?

And I work in the "real world" too. Not sure what your point is with that comment.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 2:13pm
I think you're writing your checks too quickly. Maybe if you do them in calligraphy you could stretch it out a bit.
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 2:29pm
Or maybe I could talk to the cleaning person for *hours* about exactly how I want the living room vacuumed...
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 2:51pm
No, you misunderstood (or I didn't make myself clear enough). Yes, I can understand how others situations can/would be/is. But for myself, looking back on how my career was, no. But yes, I can look at myself even if I had a flex job, different job, etc.

That is only natural IMHO

Again sorry for the muddy gab, bad sinus headache today.

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