Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:15pm
Well, my nanny does make dinner a lot for us (but we all our own lawncare).

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Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:15pm
He's a keeper.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:19pm
That isn't the point. Dh can & does cook. He can get his own lunch. I want to provide him with a hot lunch. Either he comes home or I take it over to the store. I'm not picky, whichever works for however his day is going. If I have plans he eats at the store deli, goes out to eat, or comes home & gets himself. I do often cook up stuff and leave in the fridge for him to reheat. I don't do it because I have to do it. I do it because I want to do it. Big difference.

I'm not expected to do anything. I just do it out of the goodness of my heart because it makes me happy too.

I also didn't say (and didn't mean to imply either) that you can't have clean laundry and work a paying job. You sure can. But I don't want to work and it is easier for me to run things being home. I'm not afraid to admit I'd be lousy at keeping up with the house running and working. I'd hate it. I like being home, being more free.

S.V.

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Registered: 09-13-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:21pm
Um, upon you *asking* I answered what *I* do. It is far more than seeing to the staff.
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:21pm
I'm sorry. I just referred to him by his title.
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:23pm
I do volunteer part of the time my nanny is with my kids. But does it really matter? No. IMHO it doesn't.

And no to your second question. Why should I? A person (a couple if marriage is in the picture) has to decide what is best for them and what they desire. I can't evaluate if it is shallow or not because it is none of my business how others (as long as they are doing it legally) live their lives.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:26pm
Was that really necessary?

Do you really have a problem with people who live this way?

I cannot imagine caring what others do with their days.

S.V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:26pm
"I'm not expected to do anything." By virtue of having married your DH, you expect (and he agreed) to support you financially. You don't feel even a tiny bit obligated to make his life easier, since he has enabled you not to work?

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:27pm
No one is touching my yard or my flowers but me. I even run hubby off if he starts digging in my garden.

S.V.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:28pm
Yes, I do. I think it's a waste of a perfectly good life. But obviously that's just MO.

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