Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
| Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm |
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.
Kat

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Yes my kids are in school & preschool.
Yes, I do employ a nanny (no exact schedule weekly, but utilized weekly)
The nanny takes care of the kids while dh & I do things together or attend/host business functions or entertain. That way the kids get to play or go to movies, plays, the theme parks while we do something for adults (dinner out at a nice restaurant, a grown up movie). She takes care of the kids if I need her for other things (late appointments, I can't always get a dr or dental visit during 'school' hours on last minute notice). Some times I have to be at the school so she takes care of the younger. Or I have to be at the preschool so she takes care of the older. Or I have to be at church. We don't see the nanny every day or even 2 days in a row! Sometimes we do, but not on a regularly (weekly) basis.
But my volunteer roles are just that 'volunteer'. If something else needs to be done, I can plan accordingly.
Dh & I see where *my* contributions are and that is what is important.
I know one woman who, like a poster here, has a sitter who comes 5 hours a day. The sitter comes AFTER the youngest gets out of nursery school, so mom has ALL DAY to herself. This women will save up the jobs like feeding lunch and bathing her children for the nanny. She then shops, plays tennis and volunteers (I guess you could call it noble, but it's for the kind of stuff that assures her photo will appear weekly in the newspaper, like save the pink spotted egret). She also has a sitter every Fri. and Sat. night and on Sunday she has no choice, she has to bathe her own children. Quel drag.
I don't feel a need to do the things you mention. Just be a great wife, mother, enjoy my family, our extended family, and enjoy life as a whole. Give to my church and school.
I *do* feel within the confines of my home I *do* make things better. This is the whole purpose my Dh and I founded the idea of having me to SAH. I know you disagree. But that is OK. I won't change.
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