Is the SAHM the new status symbol?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is the SAHM the new status symbol?
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Tue, 09-23-2003 - 10:36pm
In the 70's and 80's women fought to get into the workforce (the whole Ms. magazine generation)...and then the tide turned in the late 1990's when more women started to stay home by choice. Now, it seems like being a SAHM is a status symbol....and superior to being a working mom.

Kat

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:53am
Wait.... I don't have a "job" and I have plenty of meaning in my life. hmmph.

You ladies are prolific. I am having trouble catching up and the posts just keep on comin'!!

April

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:55am
I guess we all have diffeent ideas of what constitutes "huge money".
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:57am
I can answer it. But I don't feel I owe an explanation for showering and clean linens.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:58am
What does someone else's opinion in a different thread have to do with my opinion? Personally, I think that people either appreciate their college education or they don't, and it should be pretty obvious beforehand which one it is. I believe it was obvious I personally didn't appreciate mine, (at the age I began) and my parents should have NOT paid for it until I was ready to appreciate it. But I really don't think earning it would change that, because earning it is a by product of really wanting to go. If I didn't want to go really badly and didn't appreciate it, I probably wouldn't bother TRYING to earn it.

The thing with this whole thread is there are very very FEW women who do absolutely nothing with their lives but pamper themselves and oversee staff. I think we can all agree that this may not be the most productive of choices in life. But this has shifted into saying that anyone who employs a lot of people in their home as help and doesn't work REGARDLESS of what they do with the rest of their lives is shallow. If someone is that shallow, I don't think having a job will do ANYTHING to change it. And having a job really has little bearing on how shallow someone is. I think it's a character issue.

I am also going to add, although I know this isn't to you personally, but I'm on a roll here, I think all this muffinsandtoast must be lying crap is totally disgusting. I see a big difference between her and the other posters people are alluding she is. First of all, she was goaded into relaying this information about her life, she did not offer it freely. Almost every post I see either smacks of jealousy, or maybe people just don't want to debate the actual philosophical issues behind what is being discussed so the resort to name calling. When I read islimshady doing the same, my jaw practically dropped out of my head, because I can't believe SHE can't remember being accused of lying because of her supposed "impossible lifestyle". We are all well aware that life is VERY different for all of us depending on what we do, where we live, and who we are, and none of us can presume to know what is impossible. Well, except Opinion 123, who knows everything about everywhere. But that's a different story.

I am done ranting now, I apoligize tichmich for using my reply to you to vent.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:58am
No comment, but you should see the look on my face. I'm just visualizing.
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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:59am
We're done.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 11:59am
Yeah i quess so...I think 100,000 a year cash money is huge...for a waiter who only works 4 or 5 shifts a week. You dont?
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 12:00pm
I do. She seems to put the meaning of others' lives solely on whether they bring a paycheck home, I don't see why she wouldn't do it to herself.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 12:00pm
You waitressed for fun? What do you do when you want a real belly laugh, pick up trash?
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Registered: 09-13-2003
Fri, 10-03-2003 - 12:01pm
My youngest is 4. I quit work upon having her. So I've been home just a tad over years. Yes, we did have a nanny. I worked long hours (even though I liked my job that was drudgery). Nothing to clock in at 6 or 7am and be there until 8 at night. Going in on weekends, holidays. All the stuff my dh deals with. Plus getting beeped for questions or to run in during my off time or middle of the night. Ugh! I loved the job itself. I just wanted to devote more time than I was able to my children and not have a nanny caring for them on a daily basis (or at least not that many hours on a daily basis). I wanted more freedoms that sah affords me.

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