SAHM or work

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Registered: 07-12-2005
SAHM or work
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:01pm

For most of my adult life, I was at SAHM. I got married at 19, became a mommy, and stayed at home because it was cheaper that way. A few years ago I went through this whole "self discovery" phase of life. I wanted to be something more than wife and mommy....so I went back to college. I became a working woman in November 2006. I am now realizing that I want to be home with my kids more than anything. I feel that since I have

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:09pm
How old is your youngest child? I say if work is making you miserable and you can afford not to have your paycheck - stay home. I work part time and will never go back to work full time - even when the kids are out of the house. I will always keep my PT status and if I feel like working an extra shift here and there I will. I personally would be miserable working full time. That is me and really has nothing to do with the kids.

 

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:16pm
I guess I should have mentioned that my daughters are 8 and 4. I am also raising my teenage brother (our mom died about 3 years ago). Our financial situation has changed a lot this last year. My hubby took a job making a lot less so that we could live closer to our families. We would be okay without my income. We would just have to modify somethings.
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:18pm
I am so sorry about your mom. Sounds like you have a lot of responsiblity.

 

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:25pm
Thanks. I do have quite a bit on my plate but I try to remember that it could always be worse so I dare not to complain. I have great kids (brother included), I just want to do what is going to best for them. I don't want to regret the decision I make.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:28pm

What is it that really makes you unhappy here?

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 8:29pm
I too am sorry about your mom.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 9:00pm
If you're looking to spend more time with your children and husband without completely sacrificing the second income, maybe you could either stay-at-home or work until the youngest is in grade school and then work only part-time while they're in class? What kind of work do you do - would it allow part-time work?
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:16pm
I have to say, I don't know what excuse
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:23pm

I'm a wohm and actually, if I had my druthers, I would be home now that my oldest is in school.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:14am
You might want to try some discussions and counseling beofre you decide to do anything.

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