SAHM vs. WOHM what do you love?

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Registered: 04-17-2008
SAHM vs. WOHM what do you love?
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Wed, 07-30-2008 - 3:05am

So, I've stumbled onto this page from the August Expecting Club and due to my own questions thought I'd ask those here their TOTALLY open and honest opinion...


I'm 25, DH & I are anxiously anticipating our first child and we are currently trying to decide whether I should be a stay at home mom OR work outside the home.


I've had several different career opportunities but nothing "professional" I guess you could say.


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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 8:11am

actually, I do believe that there are two separate divorce rates. The ones for first-time marriages has run consistently around 50% or so. The one for second marriages tops out at a whopping 85% ending in divorce.


eileen

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 8:12am

actually, the moral to that would be -- FIGURE OUT why your first marriage didn't work, get some counseling so that you don't bring the problems from your first marriage into your second.


eileen

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Registered: 07-31-2008
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 10:21pm

Congrats on your upcoming baby!


What I've liked the best about staying at home is being flexible with the kids and activities. If we want to go out to breakfast, we can, any time. A Wednesday could be as potentially exciting as a Saturday.


What I've liked about my time outside the home is not having to spend most of my day referring to myself in the third person. ("Give that to Mommy, please.")

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 11:14pm

well, I can only speak from a WOHM standpoint, with the exception of the 2 times I stayed home for 16 weeks on maternity leave.


The hardest part of WOHM to me is the juggle.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-02-2008 - 2:14am

" One of the (questionable?) joys of parenthood is finding out so much more about yourself."

Since you put a question mark there, no, I do not think it is a questionable joy. It is the reason it is worth doing in spite of how hard it is.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sat, 08-02-2008 - 9:11am

At your age and stage of family life you have a great opportunity to really ask some complex questions and start thinking/talking about them with your DH.

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Sat, 08-02-2008 - 9:29am

"I think it's so interesting because some

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Sat, 08-02-2008 - 11:11am

I think the "questionable?" part come in if you find out things about yourself that you would just rather go through life not knowing.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-02-2008 - 11:31am
LOL, yes I guess, but OTOH "the unexamined life is not worth living."
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Sat, 08-02-2008 - 11:41am

True. And I've never been one to "lie" to myself. Keep those "things" a deep, dark secret from the outside world, yes, but never to myself. And by extension my family. We all know where Erica gets her stubbornness and her OCD. :)

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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