SAHM but Want to Use DC

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SAHM but Want to Use DC
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 1:31pm

I don't know if this is "debatable" but I'd like some advice/opinions from SAHM's and WOHM.


I'm starting to think about putting my toddlers in DC once they are about 2 yrs old. I don't WOH and don't plan

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 10:46am

Wow, with 3 under 3, just imagine how much you could get done during the time that they are in daycare compared to when they're with you.

With them, given 1 hour, you could go to the store to buy bread.

Without them, given 1 hour, you could go to the store to buy all your groceries, mail some bills, drive through the bank to make a deposit, and maybe even get home in time to make yourself a sandwich before the timer goes off, LOL. Now that is therapeutic!

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 3:36pm
Sounds you are overwhelmed by your children and you are planning on having another? And you think this is gonna be a good idea when you can't handle what you have now? Just a thought. Putting them in daycare or a Preschool type of program I think would be a good idea if you can't be around them all the time. I know plenty of women that choose to have kids and then find out that it isn't something that they can handle on a daily basis without getting stressed out. They would be better off being in the care of someone else to give you time to get yourself together so you can be a better Mom to them and to your husband. I find this a very sad situation that you feel this way. Now I would understand if you worked fulltime and were burned out between working, kids, and home and family. I know I couldn't deal with that so that is why I choose to stay at home, but since I am home it really doesn't make since to me to farm out my child to others just because of my choice I made.
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 3:41pm

Yikes!

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 4:01pm

Ummm. you have one daughter, according to your profile. You have no idea how different it is to have two young ones, to be pulled in two different directions for much of the day. Up until a month ago, being home with my two under two meant that I could go until 2 PM without sitting down. I could not even unload the dishwasher efficiently because the crawler was always trying to crawl inside it or grab the knives and the toddler wanted to help. A typical morning before my baby started sleeping well could involve running up and down the stairs two or three dozen times between trying to get the little one to take a nap and trying to make sure the toddler was still safely coloring at the table or zooming his Thomas around the tracks or even (gasp) watching his DVD.

The fact that I needed a break once in awhile was not because I couldn't "handle" my two kids. It's because the pace required to keep up with two kids under two was a pace that takes its toll when you're doing it 24/7. A simple three hour break is refreshing, rejuvenating, and much-needed.

I don't think she can't handle her kids. I don't think she is farming out her kids. She is acknowledging that she is only human, and making the appropriate choices to ensure that her children get her best. I do not think anyone could be with two under two 24/7 and never feel a ounce of stress or anxiety. So she wants to minimize that stress and anxiety. Should we give a medal to the people who would rather subject their kids to it just so they could say they did it on their own?

I think it's far healthier for a mother who recognizes when she needs a break and takes them to have more kids than the woman who puts on the facade of having it all together when her interactions with her children belie her claim. And if we said all mothers who feel stress should stop having kids...I think we'd see a big drop in the birth rate!

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 6:15pm
ROFL! Try taking care of multiple small children all day every day for years without a break and THEN try telling us that she's not "working full time" and couldn't possibly be burned out and in need of personal time. Thanks for the laugh - now pull the other leg.
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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 7:30pm

Alright....I was waiting for someone to get all judgmental about her wanting another baby and also a break and you did not disappoint.


It's okay to want a break.

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 7:52pm

Even in colonial days, women watched one another's children all the time. And from medieval times all the way thru the mid-19th century, when a child was

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 9:53pm

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


And hehmommy, 1 kid? Seriously. And you judge others?


Heck I got a 21 year old a 13 year old a 8 year old a 7 year old and a 4 year old.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 10:29pm

Come on people!! It is April Fools Day!!

I was just pulling all of your legs to see how many people I could get uptight and then says, April Fools!! I know that was mean, but I haven't been able to trick my husband at all today.

Even though I only have one little girl there have been times that I would like to pull out my hair. My goodness!! Everyone needs a break and if putting them into a little program where they can have fun and be with other children and you can get in some "me time" sounds great. Kuddos to all those Mom who decide to have more than one. Having one I think is hard enough. My sister in law has 3 girls and my other sister in law has 4 and honestly I don't know how she stays sane.

I use to work from 6 am to 6 pm for many many years in an infant-toddler program and also did Preschool before I went on to the Public Schools System. I was thankful at the end of the day to leave-ugh. Not saying I didn't enjoy it and ready to come back the next day, but to think I would have several little ones around the clock.

You need time to just sit and even be able to go to the bathroom by yourself.

My Daughter was a preemie and very ill from day one up to the age of about 4. In and out of the hospital- Emergency rooms-etc- clinging on to me and not letting anyone touch her including Daddy. I swear she was attached to my hip. I don't know how I ever made it thru and I never once had a break by myself until this past year and let me tell you it has been heaven!! I take her to see Grandma for about 4 hours and man that time goes by sop quick. I barely have time to shower, go to the grocery store and sit down just for a moment before it is time to pick her up.

Anyways- sorry I pulled one on you guys. I was dying to see the responses and flames.

Even though I am a sahm I have nothing against using outside sources when you need it. Also nothing against wohm. There have been many times I have thought about going back myself, but it just doesn't seem to work that way.

Ok so enough said. Good luck. I hope you find a good place that they will have fun and hope you get some time for yourself. Go for it now while you can on making the babies. I waited too long and now I am already at the almost age of 39 going thru Perimenopause and my hubby is fixed so no more for us.

Trish :)

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Tue, 04-01-2008 - 10:45pm

Oh geeze!


Good one, lol.


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