SAHM but Want to Use DC

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SAHM but Want to Use DC
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 1:31pm

I don't know if this is "debatable" but I'd like some advice/opinions from SAHM's and WOHM.


I'm starting to think about putting my toddlers in DC once they are about 2 yrs old. I don't WOH and don't plan

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Registered: 12-11-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 9:01am

okay, I read everyones

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:35am

Wow, I must have missed the legislation that put you in charge of when people should breed or what their stress levels are permitted to be or if they have the right to use outside care for longer than you approve of.

What U.S.C. was that, again?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:42am

"First of all, if you have two kids under two and can't handle it, dont have a third."

Okay, I'm lost, where did she say in her OP that she was having a third? Where did she say that she can't handle it?

"I can completely understand the need for a break, I have a very very spirited 5 year old that constantly tests my limits, and a 2 month old that gets up for the day by 4 oclock every day, but I don't think I could send them away for 20 hours a week. "

How would she be "sending them away? She is sending the *to* something. Something that would have benefits to the children as well as herself. I think it is a win win. 20 hours is not that much time to be away from mommy.

"It just seems like such a long time, I could understand a couple hours one day a week so you can go grocery shopping, or just sit and relax, but 20 hours?"

Okay but when did this become about *you*. Obviously, this is not a choice that *you* would make. Got it. Everyone is different and capable of making different but *valid* and perfectly fine choices.

"You should also realize that when you have a child in daycare they will be learning whatever the teacher wants them to learn,"

Which is why it is important to do ones research *before* enrolling ones child. Many times preschools can reinforce parent's value systems.

"Just out of curiosity how much would it cost to have a child in dc for 20 hours a week where you are? because where I live it would cost over 300 a month to do that"

Wow, that sounds really cheap to me. I paid $1350 a month for three day a week childcare for two children. And that was 7 years ago- it is much more now. Part day twice a week preschool was about $300 a month and that was the cheapest in town - again 5+ years ago.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 10:48am

You're not the only one that wouldn't put their preschool child in DC, period, but you may very well be the only one that thinks that you know what's best for everyone else too.


I leave my 4 yo DD with either my DH or a trusted friend with a child the same age for her to play with

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 4:41pm

So what's the big deal about 20 hours?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 4:57pm
I thought you used preschool?
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 5:05pm

wow.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 5:36pm

It is a *proper* preschool/pre-K; our teachers all actually have ECE or EE bachelor's degrees at a minimum (unlike many preschools), but it's run as a parents cooperative, so there's a 5:1 child:adult ratio with two or three parent volunteers in every classroom (vetted out the wazoo, I might add, the packet you have to fill out is half an inch thick).

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 8:11pm

"You should also realize that when you have a child in daycare they will be learning whatever the teacher wants them to learn, maybe not what you want them to learn, and as I realized when my dd was in dc, the other kids also teach them things that you might not want them to learn."

So what magical thing happens at age five that makes this ok when they go to kindergarten and learn from teachers and other students.

you know what my daughter learned in her five years in daycare? manners, respect, compassion, sharing, numbers and letters, how a community works, understanding of what its like to be disabled, respect for her elders (through weekly visits to the neighboring nursing home), how to make an apple pie,how to tie her shoes, how to swim...

i should probably sue them for the horrible things they taught her but hey..I'm easy going..

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Sat, 04-05-2008 - 11:56pm

LOL...first of all, you have ONE, only ONE infant to take care of . It's real easy for moms of ONE baby to make snide remarks about how "easy" it is to handle your kid and not needing a break. Hell, If I had ONE kid, It would be a PIECE OF CAKE!!! I could take care

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