SAHM Worries

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Registered: 11-19-2008
SAHM Worries
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Sat, 12-27-2008 - 9:08pm
Just wondering if any other stay at home Moms ever worry about the future and what if's? I have been thinking about this alot lately and I guess what makes it a lot worse is the thought of turning 40 my next Birthday. We have a 6 1/2 year old Daughter that we homeschool,I have not held a Teaching job for over 1 years now, and I think wow what if something happened to my husband? I am not in the best health either so I am not sure if I could actually hold down a steady job and my health seems to get worse the older I get. I love being at home and have no desires to hold down a job, but gets scary thinking about the future. I am a Christian and even though I know we are not suppose to worry about tommorow I can't help, but worry worry worry. Just wondering if I am alone in my thinking. My husband says NO NO NO to me working. I can't even mention it without him getting upset by it. Tricia

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Registered: 11-19-2008
Sat, 12-27-2008 - 11:52pm
Typo- 10 years I haven't worked. Trish
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 3:03am
Christians are supposed to help themselves. If your dh won't let you work, you have a serious problem. He should not control you in that way. What is wrong with your health? 40 is too young to be broken down like that.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 6:43am
People can have chronic conditions that make it hard to have full-time or even part-time employment at any age.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 6:43am
Why can't you worry about tomorrow? What does that have to do withbeing Christian?
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 11:46am

because that's God's job. :) We are to rely on God. The whole storing up treasures in Heaven instead of on Earth. God takes care of the lilies of the field and the birds of the air. Since He takes care of the little things, how much more will He take care of his children. There are more verses in the New Testament that speak on this topic.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 11:54am

How about some tutoring in your home after school? As for the rest, you need to sit down with your dh and go over all your financials so you know where you will stand if something happens to each of you. There is nothing Biblical that says that the wife HAS to be a sahm/w and the husband is the sole breadwinner. But he could also be concerned about what working could do to your health. You won't know what is behind his response to your working unless you two can sit down and talk about it. Perhaps someone connected to your church family could help as a disinterested 3rd party?

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 11:58am
There is also the parable of the talents though.
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 12:52pm

That's more using your abilities/resources to the best of your ability. But, yes, planning for the future (on the understanding that God can change those plans) is part of that. We, however, aren't to be fretting and worrying about the future.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 3:01pm
Yes, but I think that often the fretting comes from knowing that you are not using your gifts and abilities as well as you could.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 3:49pm

i'm a worrier by nature.

 

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