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For SAHM's.
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 5:18pm

For all the stay at home moms, yes I'm one of them. I have one question, do you plan on going back to work once all of your children are in Elementary school? Or do you like staying at home and have decided to never work again? I am just curious, my husband and I have talked about it. I am mainly home just for my kids, to be here when they come home from school is nice, but, I tend to get bored easly, so I have decided once my 3 year old enters into Elementary school, I will be going back to work. I have thought and thought about this, my husband is fine if I decide not to work or if I decide to go back and work. We are financially stable so I can choose to stay home if I want. I would be working so i won't be bored, while the kids are at school all day long. I do plan on working part time, so i can be home when they get home from school. I'm not the type to sit around and do nothing all day, right now my kids are home half the day at least my 5 year old is, so I have her, and my youngest to be home for. I just can't envision myself sitting here all day long with no children around, going gee what do i do now, ain't gonna happen.

I'm done rambling, waiting for replies!!!!

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 11:50am

Well, in my situation I can afford to joke about it. But in reality, I'm pretty much with you.

I have seen it played up close and personal. By a close family member who quit and spent YEARS caring for her husband's dying Alzheimer's ridden mother (10 years - to be accurate).

Faced with a sudden serious issue of her own - and wanting to come stay with us, her husband - Mr. Nice Never Hold Money Against You You Are My Equal Guy - threatened to cut her off if she did not come home immediately. Having no job, and little funds in her name only - what were her choices?

My gut feeling was fine - leave him. Get a job down the street and stay here. She didn't. Their marriage is fine, now, but I am under NO illusion who holds the cards - never mind what anyone SAYS.

This is just one of those things that a) I don't think anyone can quantify, b) doesn't become apparent until the you-know-what hits the fan and c)If it is quantifiable, we'd really rather not acknowledge it.

So what's the point in arguing.

Mondo

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 11:52am

I don't really have any difficulty distinguishing between different types of partnerships. There are business partnerships, marriage partnerships, and other kinds of partnerships. These partnerships have different purposes and different kinds of emotions involved.

Believe me, the dissolution of a business partnership can get just as nasty as a divorce. Oftentimes it's not the nice clean business transaction you're imagining. Circumstances change, and emotions often run high, and the partnership agreement you negotiated when you started out doesn't always seem fair at the time of the "divorce." Does that mean it was never really a partnership?

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 11:54am
Aw Marcia thanks for sharing! Aren't you glad you took the parenting plunge?

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 11:56am
I'd go further than that.

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 11:58am
What you negotiate in a partnership going in may seem like it's going to be fair, but that's not always the case. Like a marriage, when you go into a new business, everything's rosy, but as you go along, problems develop. One person may have contributed far more to the arrangement than another, but still be getting paid the same for his share at the end, and that can cause a lot of anger and resentment. There are also typically noncompete provisions in these agreements, so there are plenty of control issues that come up at the end. I can't tell you how many partnerships I know of, especially small businesses, where the partners' relationship has gone sour and one partner really feels disadvantaged at the dissolution.
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 11:59am
Ok thanks.

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:01pm
No, I'm not sure.

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:03pm
Same way he gets it published now. Many retired profs actually publish *more* after they retire from teaching because they don't have to balance research and publishing with service and teaching commitments. Two doors down from me is the emeritus office for the history department, shared by three retired professors. All still have active scholarly lives. One is in just about every day from 9-5, same as he was before retirement. Another is the senior editor of a major scholarly journal. The third is getting pretty frail, healthwise, but still manages to maintain an active, although curtailed schedule. My DH will follow the same path, I am sure.
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:08pm
I guess your DH is impervious to the playing of the money card.

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:18pm
Most definitely!

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