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For SAHM's.
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 5:18pm

For all the stay at home moms, yes I'm one of them. I have one question, do you plan on going back to work once all of your children are in Elementary school? Or do you like staying at home and have decided to never work again? I am just curious, my husband and I have talked about it. I am mainly home just for my kids, to be here when they come home from school is nice, but, I tend to get bored easly, so I have decided once my 3 year old enters into Elementary school, I will be going back to work. I have thought and thought about this, my husband is fine if I decide not to work or if I decide to go back and work. We are financially stable so I can choose to stay home if I want. I would be working so i won't be bored, while the kids are at school all day long. I do plan on working part time, so i can be home when they get home from school. I'm not the type to sit around and do nothing all day, right now my kids are home half the day at least my 5 year old is, so I have her, and my youngest to be home for. I just can't envision myself sitting here all day long with no children around, going gee what do i do now, ain't gonna happen.

I'm done rambling, waiting for replies!!!!

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:11pm
Because women have vaginas instead of penises.

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:11pm
Preschool would be great too!
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:12pm

That's because as an engineer, he's already used to dealing with how to manage childish nature (aka management!). LOL.

I think our society in general would benefit by having more men in traditionally female jobs, as well as the reverse.

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:14pm
REpeat to self--read all posts before replying...saves much effort!
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:26pm

I think it all goes back then, to my opening statement about both of us being grown-ups. My children are relatively financially ignorant. DH and I are both on top of our bank balances and our investment and saving strategies. Both of us are quite aware of what things cost. I know that many couples are OK with one person being the finance person and one having no interest whatsoever. I wouldn't be and neither would DH.

As far as "hating to grow up in your house," well, I had my own issues with an alcoholic father. All things being equal, I think it's better for children to grow up in functional rather than dysfunctional households. Of course, it's probably the case that DH and I are completely blind to our own dysfunctions and our kids are growing up totally messed up and will develop syndromes they don't even have names for yet. Maybe have to join the "Children of Totally Rational Parents" Support Group or something.

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:36pm

"Maybe have to join the "Children of Totally Rational Parents" Support Group or something"


My husband and I are in that support group...we call ours the "dysfunctionally functional support group".

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:38pm
We do? Dang, I *knew* I was forgetting something when I left the house this morning.
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:38pm

Not really. This works for us. DH loathes doing things like shoe shopping and Chase gets his haircuts at 10am during the week, so Daddy can't do that. He does child-rearing though...when he's home, he gives DS his bath and put him to bed. He occasionally cooks dinner for the family (usually something he has caught or killed) and is an outstanding cook. I don't really need more help w/Chase. Maybe if we had more than one, eventually I will, but right now we're doing man on man defense and it works. Plus, we're kind of doing the stuff we both enjoy re: parenting, so we're both happy.

Dh wouldn't relax more if he worked less, quite the opposite, actually. If he's actually home a full weekend or long weekend, he is literally climbing the walls by the end of it. He just not a "relaxing" kind of person. He doesn't read for pleasure, he only watches Cardinal baseball, Desperate Housewives, and Grey's Anatomy on tv--to relax, he hunts or fishes, which is why we'll eventually build a place on several acres. But just to be home "relaxing"...it isn't relaxing for him.

I don't miss him when he's not around. Quite honestly, I'm kind of a loner and can't spend too much time w/anyone. I like my space. We touch base via the telephone a few times during the work day and usually spend some time together when he gets home from work, esp. after Chase has gone to bed.

I know it wouldn't work for most women...but it works for me. Our relationship was largely long-distance while we were dating/engaged, so I've always been used to not having him around 24/7. And I'm okay with that. I do tease him about good luck finding another woman who likes his schedule if I bite the big one. But it works for us now.

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:38pm

see,i don't think children need a male influence in elementary school....now am i referencing male role models in other venues for children like sports,choir,heck even pediatrics? absolutely not. the children's choir director (male) at our church is great. their pediatrician (male) is awesome too........i am not in favor of male elementary school teachers because elementary is a mere first step to an entire world of education that men are better equipped to teach in later years. imagine your child having a potty accident or melt down because he/she doesn't want to be in school (sometimes typical k,1st even 2nd grade behavior). that is much better handled by a woman than a man. imo.

oh and p.s. dd1 was asked to do a speech presentation on who her hero was. she picked her daddy. he was thrilled and honored.......so my opinion is not based on some belief that men or a male influence don't belong in a child's life. at all.




Edited 5/10/2006 4:40 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 4:41pm
You should sell tickets. Plenty of people would pay to just sit and stare at people like that!

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