For SAHM's.

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For SAHM's.
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 5:18pm

For all the stay at home moms, yes I'm one of them. I have one question, do you plan on going back to work once all of your children are in Elementary school? Or do you like staying at home and have decided to never work again? I am just curious, my husband and I have talked about it. I am mainly home just for my kids, to be here when they come home from school is nice, but, I tend to get bored easly, so I have decided once my 3 year old enters into Elementary school, I will be going back to work. I have thought and thought about this, my husband is fine if I decide not to work or if I decide to go back and work. We are financially stable so I can choose to stay home if I want. I would be working so i won't be bored, while the kids are at school all day long. I do plan on working part time, so i can be home when they get home from school. I'm not the type to sit around and do nothing all day, right now my kids are home half the day at least my 5 year old is, so I have her, and my youngest to be home for. I just can't envision myself sitting here all day long with no children around, going gee what do i do now, ain't gonna happen.

I'm done rambling, waiting for replies!!!!

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 9:06pm
So you're exempt, but as a practical matter, if dual WOHPs need both incomes to get by, and one decides to bail, leaving the other holding the bag, that's still playing the MC without actually bringing in more income. However, as we see reading the thread, there's no MC among boardies (or almost none) ;-)
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 9:22pm

Dh does 99% of the night wakings now. When DS was a baby, I handled them during the week and DH did weekends. But now that DS is four and night wakings are rather infrequent, DH usually handles them. He simply has a lower sleep need than I do. And he says since I do all the work during the day, he's happy to help out at night and let me sleep.

Of course, if DS is sick or requests me, I do it. But 99% of the time, DH handles it.

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 9:23pm

I didnt say you said anything about me personally. But when you say things like its more unlikely for a sah/woh marriage to be a partnership, that sahps are probably deluding themselves/are naive about that, and then go on to say that *people on this board* are probably not being honest-I think that kind of insults sahps in general, not to mention implies you question the honesty of the people on this board.

You dont have to say something about someone personally for it to be a rather insulting remark that puts people down.

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 10:00pm
You've just decided to take offense here, for no good reason. My posts, for example #153, go out of their way to qualify my opinions as not applying generally to everyone; they use words like "often", "sometimes", "can", and so forth just about every time. If you want to deny the possibility of anything I've been talking about ever happening, you might want to support that somehow. If you want to deny the possibility of any of it applying to you, you probably don't need to.
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 10:50pm

Anyone with a lesser job much be less intelligent. That's the opinion of a first class snob.

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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 11:05pm

Of course you have time to run. You don't do any household chores at all except cook and clean up the kitchen. That's not Dj's, or any other poster here's, situation."

And do laundry; and clean up after the kids; and clean up after DH as I'm much neater than him; and clean the bathroom every day; etc. etc. etc.

And you are going to tell me most others here get up an hour earlier to do household chores? Like at 5.30 a.m. as I do to run? Yeahhhh.

On top of that PNJ, I work longer hours than most here. By quite a long shot. I would be willing to bet I've got less time than most folks who arent working 60+ hours a week and traveling. Yet I find time to run. Funny that....Just like others find time to do the things they find essential.

Nice try though.

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 12:23am

It sounds to me like she didn't feel like she could demand that he get up when he was working and she wasn't. So he may not have played the money card--it may simply have been that her own issues about not working kept her from insisting that he help.

I tend to think the money card thing is often more about women and how they feel about not working than it is about the men. I know one of my concerns about sah was that I wouldn't feel comfortable spending money or making decisions about money if I wasn't earning any.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:39am

Does he use the local Y now? I think he's being reasonable unless your budget doesn't allow it.

I'm not sure how or if you think he's playing the MC here either.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:51am

"it may simply have been that her own issues about not working kept her from insisting that he help."

From her previous posting on the issue I tend to think that is the case.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:53am
If you're able to keep family and home intact working 4 days, why would it be impossible for you to add the one extra day? Your children are in school for most of that 5th day?

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