For SAHM's.

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For SAHM's.
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 5:18pm

For all the stay at home moms, yes I'm one of them. I have one question, do you plan on going back to work once all of your children are in Elementary school? Or do you like staying at home and have decided to never work again? I am just curious, my husband and I have talked about it. I am mainly home just for my kids, to be here when they come home from school is nice, but, I tend to get bored easly, so I have decided once my 3 year old enters into Elementary school, I will be going back to work. I have thought and thought about this, my husband is fine if I decide not to work or if I decide to go back and work. We are financially stable so I can choose to stay home if I want. I would be working so i won't be bored, while the kids are at school all day long. I do plan on working part time, so i can be home when they get home from school. I'm not the type to sit around and do nothing all day, right now my kids are home half the day at least my 5 year old is, so I have her, and my youngest to be home for. I just can't envision myself sitting here all day long with no children around, going gee what do i do now, ain't gonna happen.

I'm done rambling, waiting for replies!!!!

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:40am

He doesn't hold his higher income against me; and I can't hold it against him, either. It pays for my luxury lifestyle! And it paid for our ruinously expensive second adoption.

But I didn't know going in that to rise in his field would involve such long hours. And I didn't know how consuming a couple of kids can be. And I didn't know that after a while I'd want to do more wrt working a bigger variety of job settings, research, publishing, presenting at meetings, mentoring, exploring private practice... That's all been on hold for quite a while because I can't juggle everything and he only helps up to a point.

In our early days, I did have the MC, but I handed it over to him, and until the girls are grown and gone, he has it, in a soft sort of way.

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:43am

A very biased view.

Vikki

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:44am

I'll find the post in which you claimed that the only housework you did was cooking and cleaning up the kitchen. You've never before stated that you did laundry or cleaned up after your family members.


You want a prize for exercising regularly even though you work killer hours?

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:48am

D*mn straight.

Vikki

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:51am

I'd tell him that you now have a standing weekly massage appointment and see how he reacts to that.

Vikki

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:57am
He wouldn't care. He'd say, "Enjoy!" He doesn't care what I do, if I work or not, if I spend or not, as long as I'm happy. But there are lots of things he won't do.
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:01am

Okay, was just trying to get even with him for joining a swanky gym! But, I think it's great that he wants you to do things that make you happy. He sounds like a nice guy.

Vikki

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:08am

He's a very nice guy, and I probably sound like a spoiled brat for even mentioning the MC in connection with him. I'm by no means the best example of the MC within a marriage, but geez, some posters are trying to say there's no such thing, and I think there is.

Edited for spelling




Edited 5/11/2006 12:50 pm ET by sabinamarianne
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:16am

It was great and again yesterday afternoon!!


Have you been to the new stadium yet?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:18am

Well the here and now is important. Someone has to do the day to day stuff that needs doing. You can hire out many of the day to day tasks that need doing. So while the here and now is important it really isn't what binds us together. But why do you stay with your dh? There has to be more to it than just you stay with him because he does a certain set of tasks that you don't want to do? What makes you love him?

What is it about him and you that draw you to each other? Laundry? I think there is more to it but you just have to look.

Jenna

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