For SAHM's.

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For SAHM's.
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 5:18pm

For all the stay at home moms, yes I'm one of them. I have one question, do you plan on going back to work once all of your children are in Elementary school? Or do you like staying at home and have decided to never work again? I am just curious, my husband and I have talked about it. I am mainly home just for my kids, to be here when they come home from school is nice, but, I tend to get bored easly, so I have decided once my 3 year old enters into Elementary school, I will be going back to work. I have thought and thought about this, my husband is fine if I decide not to work or if I decide to go back and work. We are financially stable so I can choose to stay home if I want. I would be working so i won't be bored, while the kids are at school all day long. I do plan on working part time, so i can be home when they get home from school. I'm not the type to sit around and do nothing all day, right now my kids are home half the day at least my 5 year old is, so I have her, and my youngest to be home for. I just can't envision myself sitting here all day long with no children around, going gee what do i do now, ain't gonna happen.

I'm done rambling, waiting for replies!!!!

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:16pm

No, they oooh and ahhh because I'm such a good gardener and my landscaping is beautiful.

 

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:17pm
Of whom, for what?

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:23pm
ROFLMAO!

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:29pm
Is that what

 

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:54pm

The whole "retirement and college funds funded by one magic income" line was a bit sour grapes, no?

Actually, the whole post was bit sour grapes, wasn't it?

Edited to add: It has nothing to do w/me or MY lifestyle--she just sounds a little bitter.




Edited 5/11/2006 5:00 pm ET by mygarnetboy
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 4:59pm
Nope, totally NOT where I was going w/that. It's just that your whole post reeks of sour grapes. Just curious why there is so much bitterness and sarcasm there.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:00pm

No - it was delicious satire.


Do you really secretly think all FT WOHMs would rather spend their days at home?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:12pm
Been there. There are been a few periods of my life that would have been easier had I had the wisdon that I did not gain until later in my life.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:14pm

No, I don't. For example, I know you would never be happy at SAH. I know there are women who enjoy their careers and are still active, loving mothers. My ob/gyn is a perfect example. She's got two grown boys from her first marriage and teen from her second. She works crazy hours but is still really, really involved in her kids' lives. While I personally have no desire to WOH, I get that other women thrive doing so.

Having said that, you have to understand that the two WOHMs I'm closest to IRL make no secret that they'd rather be SAH right now, but it's not economically feasible. My sister makes more than twice what her DH makes and they couldn't live on just his salary. Period. So she HAS to work. But she is becoming increasingly vocal about her growing dissatisfaction w/her job and I'm betting when she gets pregnant again, he'll be finding a new job so she can SAH. My friend loathes the long hours away from baby (she's got a good 15 hr a week commute in addition to her 40hrs plus occasional OT), but they can't afford the lifestyle they want w/o her salary.

Do you deny that the grass is sometimes greener? When thinking about SAH, I don't think WOHMs always think about the negatives (lack of adult interaction, boredom, repetition, etc) b/c if what they're doing isn't working, SAH becomes the easy answer for their problems. As in, "Well if I was SAH, I could do XYZ and things would be better...."

I am capable of grasping that while I may not want to partake of something (tequila shots come to mind in addition to WOH), others may greatly enjoy that something. And more power to them...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:16pm
Yes, the grass is sometimes greener.

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