For SAHM's.

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For SAHM's.
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 5:18pm

For all the stay at home moms, yes I'm one of them. I have one question, do you plan on going back to work once all of your children are in Elementary school? Or do you like staying at home and have decided to never work again? I am just curious, my husband and I have talked about it. I am mainly home just for my kids, to be here when they come home from school is nice, but, I tend to get bored easly, so I have decided once my 3 year old enters into Elementary school, I will be going back to work. I have thought and thought about this, my husband is fine if I decide not to work or if I decide to go back and work. We are financially stable so I can choose to stay home if I want. I would be working so i won't be bored, while the kids are at school all day long. I do plan on working part time, so i can be home when they get home from school. I'm not the type to sit around and do nothing all day, right now my kids are home half the day at least my 5 year old is, so I have her, and my youngest to be home for. I just can't envision myself sitting here all day long with no children around, going gee what do i do now, ain't gonna happen.

I'm done rambling, waiting for replies!!!!

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:21pm

Why not?

I have days that I'm envious of my WOH friends. I love my son and I usually love SAH, but I have bad days like everyone else. And on those days the thought of dressing in something other than my suburban mommy wardrobe and hanging out w/grownups while being mentally and intellectually stimulated is enough to make me jealous of my WOH friends. It's not like I'm walking around in a permanent green state or that a hug and cute comment from DS doesn't make it go away. But sometimes it's there.

Why is that so wrong?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:25pm
Oh no, I wasn't addressing the jealousy issue in general. I was simply trying to say that you can't infer from that hilarious post that she's jealous of any SAHM or you in particular.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:27pm
Do you really believe this or are you just having fun riling up the masses?
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:29pm
I didn't see the humor or find the post particularly funny. I thought it just sounded bitter.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:36pm

If you're not into wry humor or "know" her from her posts, I guess that would account for it. Posts are often hard to "read" on here.

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:46pm

Whether a house requires two incomes to support has many inputs. For instance, when we bought our house we spent just under $400K and took a mortgage of just under $300K. We were in our mid 30's and both of us were working. We were lucky enough to have made enough money on our previous home to have a large down payment. We were also at a point in our lives where dh could make enough money on his own to afford the house. Our house is pretty large (4000 sf) and in an upscale, gated community with nice community amenities. Our house has just about doubled in the 5 1/2 years we have owned it. So while it doesn't take 2 incomes for us to maintain this house it might take 2 incomes for another couple, even if there is one partner who makes as much as dh.

Today's buyers are not able to purchase a similarly sized home in a similar neighborhood for under $400K. The least expensive house in my city is listed in the mid $300's and is a 1600sf home in an older development (still nice though). So younger buyers who are making less money, and have a smaller down payment, and are not as far along in their careers as we were may have no choice but to purchase a home that requires 2 incomes to maintain.

Additionally, when there is a divorce it is quite possible that one partner simply cannot afford the house on their own because the house has increased in value so dramatically. When we first purchased this home I would have been able to afford half of the purchase price by going to work. Now that the house has increased in value I would have to buy dh out of his share of the house to keep it. And there is no way I could afford to keep the house on what I could make. NOT because we are so stretched but because the house has increased in value so much.

Jenna

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 5:52pm

well thanks for the correction. it's obvious you knew what i meant though.

but do tell me,there's not one commoner who drives by your home and OOOOOOOHS and AHHHHHHS at your home because they've got nothing better to do on a sunday afternoon? or do you just refuse to acknowledge it? curious.

it happens lots of times here.......the homes on the other side of the golf course with fancy dormers,fancy well manicured landscapes HAVE GOT to belong to more affluent folks than us - an almost guaranteed observation without knowing too many over there.

 

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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:02pm

Same here. I could buy a house if I had half the equity in this house as a down payment. But I could not buy one as nice as this one, and dh would be able to afford a way nicer home than me based on his income.

Jenna

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:06pm
Ok, then you can get called out this way. Why single out SAH/WOH couples? Do you think it happens more in those types of relationships? If so, why?
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 6:12pm
Such a disgusting and patently wrong statement, the my jaw is hanging and I can't even think of anything to say. I bet my dh is 5000 times better with kids under 10 than any woman you know.

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