For SAHM's.

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For SAHM's.
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Mon, 05-01-2006 - 5:18pm

For all the stay at home moms, yes I'm one of them. I have one question, do you plan on going back to work once all of your children are in Elementary school? Or do you like staying at home and have decided to never work again? I am just curious, my husband and I have talked about it. I am mainly home just for my kids, to be here when they come home from school is nice, but, I tend to get bored easly, so I have decided once my 3 year old enters into Elementary school, I will be going back to work. I have thought and thought about this, my husband is fine if I decide not to work or if I decide to go back and work. We are financially stable so I can choose to stay home if I want. I would be working so i won't be bored, while the kids are at school all day long. I do plan on working part time, so i can be home when they get home from school. I'm not the type to sit around and do nothing all day, right now my kids are home half the day at least my 5 year old is, so I have her, and my youngest to be home for. I just can't envision myself sitting here all day long with no children around, going gee what do i do now, ain't gonna happen.

I'm done rambling, waiting for replies!!!!

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:13pm

gosh ik......why can't you just accept the acknowledgement as a compliment?

>>a "Owned By Rich Lawyer and Engineer"sign in the yard <<
rofl,that's funny but no, they'd probably think it was for sale.

 

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:13pm
Darn right! It's tons of work and takes forever to go over all those details with the gardener! I saw it on "Desperate Housewives". If you let the yard go, what would the neighbors say?
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:17pm

love those too....in fact,my dad and his lady friend are coming in town tomorrow for dd's first communion this weekend. we may just have to go an an oooooh and aaaaaaaah ride in the historical area where president ghw bush lives....you'd probably like it chris. real pretty older homes near the city.

enjoy your mothers day.

 

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:35pm
Who is posting bullsh*t?
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:36pm

Thank you, I will. This will be our 8th Mother's Day tour.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:37pm

Only if you promise to make your DH play the engineer card when dealing w/teachers, the school board, the PTA.

You KNOW people bow down to engineers...isn't that right, KBMAMMM?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 8:59pm

Yet what is truly interesting is that despite your assertion that its more of a concern for sah/woh marriages, both you and pnj, wohms who make good incomes, seem to have it being a bigger factor in your lives and marriages than *any* of the sahms here.

Oh but is that because the sahms are naive and kidding themselves?

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:12pm

Isn't this a chicken and egg scenario?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 9:20pm

For one thing, biology.

Uless something miraculous has occurred lately that I am unaware of, women still do the child bearing. They run 100% of the risks of the pregnancy, and endure the physical and emotional changes that can occur after childbirth. Statistically, they will spend more time caring for the children that the father. In the case of divorce, there is also a greater chance the bulk of custody will also be given to the mother. Good quality childcare can be difficult and/or expensive to obtain (even Britney "successful rich woman" Spears' nanny dropped the kid on his head!) Motherhood and fatherhood are biologically and culturally different. Even if cultural mores change and fathers are given (or take) more responsibility for their children, biology remains the same.

Carrie

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Registered: 05-11-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:41pm

I am a WAHM. That is pretty close to a SAHM. The difference is that in my "spare" time, I earn some supplemental income for our family. I have a 2 1/2 year old and an 8 year old. I did work outside of the home after my 8 year old went to school, however, know I had to be at home once we had our youngest. I actually tried to go back to work after he was a year old and I lasted 4 days and it was only part time. UG!!! I just had to be home. But unfortunately, we needed the income, so my husband was going to look for a 2nd job. I just didn't feel right about that so I started looking for things to do at home. I actually found the company and team that I partnered up with by accident. I really believe that nothing happens by accident. I feel so much more fulfilled now that I have "adult" relationships. I am no longer just talking about Dora, and Thomas all day, but have a great time on the phone with other moms and actually help many other moms to change their lives everyday!!
I think that when we have children someone (one of their parents) has to be home and available to them. It is pretty important too however, that those children have everything they need. So in my world it is perfect that I can raise my children and I get to contribute financially as well!!
So there are more than just the 2 choices ladies!!

Julie

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