SAHM's and Money

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Registered: 04-27-2005
SAHM's and Money
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 6:58pm
Call me curious, but what are the foods that have to be cooked and are required for a healthy diet? I am not aware of any food that is required for a healthy diet.
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Registered: 03-02-2005
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:15pm
How would asking your dh to do more around the house be lowering your standards?



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Registered: 03-12-2005
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:15pm
I wasn't being serious when I initially made that comment. I was actually trying to defend you for cooking three squares for your child. When it comes right down to it though, I think parents could feed a baby cold foods only and give them sufficient nutrition. All baby and toddler jarred foods can be served cold.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:15pm

Most, if not all, foods in the starch category have to be cooked. I do believe a healthy diet should include at least one food from the starch list: grain, potatoes, rice, beans. Those all have to be cooked. BUT...they don't have to be cooked by parents. I almost never bake my own bread and O often by canned beans instead of soaking and boiling the dry ones. I realize it is far more expensive to buy beans canned, but oh well.

And if you aren't a vegetarian, meat has to be cooked. But again it doesn't have to be cooked by parents. I have nothing against having the grocery butcher slice me up a pound of roast turkey for sandwiches. Roast turkey sandwich. A healthy food that is cold and cooked, but not by me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:23pm
I totally agree. I would not put up with that.
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Registered: 05-17-2006
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:26pm
If you have a cleaning lady then neither of you does the cleaning. So I take it that it is an even split?
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Registered: 05-17-2006
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:27pm
Cleaning your house is optional?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:30pm

To each his/her own, and if the other poster wants to live that way, it is her business. But, there is no way, no way I would WOH and do EVERYTHING in the house, and my DH sit on his butt. No way.

It would NOT be the best for the family in our home. In our home, what would be best is both parents doing their fair share and picking up the slack if the other, for some reason, cannot do their share that day. To me, marriage is a partnership. That means you work together.

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Registered: 05-17-2006
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:30pm
Well I would say that the time that I spend on our home cleaning, cooking, driving the children to their various activities, school, yardwork, car care I would say on an average 20-25 hours per week. If you include the extra activites that I do with the children it is well over 40.
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Registered: 03-02-2005
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 7:31pm
thanks :o) dh is putting together a bookcase we bought today so i'm wasting time on the 'net. lol. we both got the day off of work which is nice.



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