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SAHM's and Money
| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 1:57pm |
I am a WOHM but have always felt like this, even as a kid. I know it is probably wrong, but it is a strong feeling I have had.
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?
When SAHM's say "I bought this or "I saved MY money for this", I always want to say "YOUR" money? Now, don't get me wrong, my mom was a SAHM and a great one at that but she would get spending money every week, just like I do, while working, but I can't feel technically that it was "HER" money.
Staying home is a hard job, being home today I can say that it is much harder to have a stressful out of the house job AND have kids but it is more physically demanding then my job.
I just feel that any money in the household has been made by the dh and is really "HIS" all the time. He just gives it to his wife to spend. I know this is horrible but I was wondering if anyone else felt this way?

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Most, if not all, foods in the starch category have to be cooked. I do believe a healthy diet should include at least one food from the starch list: grain, potatoes, rice, beans. Those all have to be cooked. BUT...they don't have to be cooked by parents. I almost never bake my own bread and O often by canned beans instead of soaking and boiling the dry ones. I realize it is far more expensive to buy beans canned, but oh well.
And if you aren't a vegetarian, meat has to be cooked. But again it doesn't have to be cooked by parents. I have nothing against having the grocery butcher slice me up a pound of roast turkey for sandwiches. Roast turkey sandwich. A healthy food that is cold and cooked, but not by me.
To each his/her own, and if the other poster wants to live that way, it is her business. But, there is no way, no way I would WOH and do EVERYTHING in the house, and my DH sit on his butt. No way.
It would NOT be the best for the family in our home. In our home, what would be best is both parents doing their fair share and picking up the slack if the other, for some reason, cannot do their share that day. To me, marriage is a partnership. That means you work together.
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